thank you for your answer. yes, my daughter is safe from the minute onwards that she told me she has been only safe, and yes, the other children are safe too. HE stays at a different flat and had no contact to any of the children alone or without me. my daughter wished to contact him three times until now, because she wanted to tell him how shit she felt when he abused her. the kids are safe. i got a court order which restricts him to even come near the house or any of us. any contact has to come from us or there is none. my daughter is 15 and she is a really strong small personality. she just agreed to go for one therapy session because i persuaded her to do that for the past few weeks. it was very difficult to make her understand that t is not for crazy people but just for people who dont want to go crazy.
i helped my husband to get into t but the therapist is...no words for him. he told him he is a genetical failure and he cant change anything about that. i am now helping him to find a new one because that t is useless. otherwise i am there for him as much as i can and as much as my daughter wants me to be. he is a survivor and thats the only reason i am still there for him. he stays like 1 km away, so its not too far, but he only gets my time after all the kids are ok and i find time for him. i am trying my best to support him and its not easy after what he has done. he has nobody else and i am all he got. i dont know about later, but for now he needs me.
thanks for your concern regarding the kids!!
everything is always okay in the end, if it's not, then it's not the end