I do not know what the laws are in your country, but in the United States, a doctor is not permitted to release any medical information for a person who is 18 years old (the age of majority), or older, unless there is a court order permitting them to do that.
If the laws in your country are like ours, then your doctor cannot legally disclose anything to anyone without your prior written consent. Consent must be obtained each time the information is ot be released. You also have control as to which information is released and to whom.
I am very sorry that you endured such horrible things and the toll it has been taking on your life.
The fact taht someone told you the LIE that abused males becomes abusers really makes me angry.
As a matter of fact, you can read the post about that very subject here at MS. Information about the Abused Becoming Abusers
The erroneous conclusion from which that myth comes is from a study done in 1979.
The article in the link above, starting on page 4, talks about why that study was incorrect in it's conclusions and what the truth is.
Please take care of yourself, and if that means telling your doctor the truth so you can receive the appropriate services, please do that. If your laws are similar to ours, your doctor cannot reveal any of your personal information. No one has to know.
I am sorry you need to be here, but I am happy that you have found us.
Welcome to MS.