He has to want the help and be willing to achieve it in my opinion. He will band aid the problem as most survivors , as myself did, an then regress more than likely until he gets help. No matter how much you want it you can't will him to get help. He has to do it. I wish y'all the best and hope all works out
Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her