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#392168 - 04/04/12 10:47 AM Re: this might help? [Re: Chase Eric]
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Originally Posted By: Chase Eric


So could it be that you need a paradigm shift? Maybe what you've accomplished is something truly wonderful and yet you see it as a problem. Maybe you have finally managed to take a knife, go to the heart of that onion, and touch the center for the first time in many years. And here you are, trying to get back to the outer layers.

Maybe the child's response is the most appropriate and emotional choice. Maybe you are trying to add more layers to the onion, when in fact you should be peeling it further to the fresher fruit below. I say let that onion light shine.


Eric - you are right.
thank you for this gift.
i LOVE it!

lee
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#392232 - 04/04/12 11:30 PM Re: this might help? [Re: traveler]
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when i read your message, Eric, i wept at the depth and power of what it was communicating to me. but i didn't really understand it. i just felt and knew that it was significant. and comforting...

i slept on it.

now i think i am able to explain a little of what it means to me:

i was trying to analyze and move past those feelings to take control and act upon my intellectual cause-and-effect way of dealing with the discomfort of the experience. in doing so i was pushing aside and negate my "younger self" that was trying to tell me something important. that is what the abusers and neglectful parents, teachers, leaders and all adults in my life did at the time. i was unwittingly trying to repeat the process by doing to myself what had been modeled for me for all my life.

i need to slow down and take time to listen to my "younger selves" and let them express what i need to learn from them. i need to embrace the emotions and let them play out since i was never permitted to experience them before. not to rush, not to interrupt, not to judge or repress or control or deny. even if i feel foolish and childish - it is important to ride this wave all the way to shore.

and all of this does not sound like the adult me at all. even six months ago, i'd have called this a bunch of new-agey gobbledegook!

but something inside (or someONE!)tells me it is true.

thanks again, wise man!
Lee
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As my life goes on I believe somehow something's changed
Something deep inside...
I've been searchin so long to find an answer
Now I know my life has meaning
Now I see myself as I am, feeling very free...
When my tears have come to an end I will understand
What I left behind: a part of me. Chicago


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#392239 - 04/04/12 11:58 PM Re: this might help? [Re: traveler]
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Precisely.
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#392242 - 04/05/12 12:01 AM . [Re: traveler]
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Edited by Life's A Dream (01/12/13 11:11 PM)

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#392244 - 04/05/12 12:06 AM Re: this might help? [Re: Life's A Dream]
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i'll look it up.
glad i didn't hear about it before i worked it out for my self.
i'd probly have pooh-poohed it and not given it serious thought.
i guess ignorance can sometimes work in your favor.
Thanks, LAD!
Lee
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As my life goes on I believe somehow something's changed
Something deep inside...
I've been searchin so long to find an answer
Now I know my life has meaning
Now I see myself as I am, feeling very free...
When my tears have come to an end I will understand
What I left behind: a part of me. Chicago


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