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#389384 - 03/15/12 03:57 PM Re: WENT to Juvie - Done [Re: JustScott]
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Robbie you've decided wisely,
you have some priorities, and your children can't wait for their dad in this very moment.
Hey Robbie, you've decided good!
There will plenty of opportunities in future where you'll be able to help others. It is just bad time at the moment.
I admire considering for going into juvenile jail and counseling kids there under your circumstances. Even just try for you to think on it as real opportunity has been great accomplishment.
Your letter is full of emotions and very honest.
Thanks you for sharing it whit us. I'm honored by your acts.
Be Well!

Pero
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#389402 - 03/15/12 07:31 PM Re: WENT to Juvie - Done [Re: JustScott]
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Robbie --

Good report! Thanks for keeping us all in the loop.
and sounds like you're making the right decision on timing... Maybe you're getting a vision of your future and now need to find the niche for you to fill now.

What i try to tell my kids = both the 3 that are my own offspring and the ones that i teach:

Regard each day and each place where you find yourself from 2 different aspects that may seem contradictory - but really give balance -

1. Carpe diem - whatever is happening IS God's will for you right here and right now - make the most of it and don't waste it by dreaming about some future fulfillment and missing what he's giving you in the present.

2. See each time and place and opportunity not only as a gift in itself - but also as a possible stepping stone and preparation for some unknown future that may be just around the corner or further down the road. So don't get too comfortable but be prepared to move on when the time comes.

I can't tell you how many of my "failures" and "dead ends" and "wastes of time" have turned out to be just the experiences i needed to qualify me for some other assignment later on.

sorry - got carried away in the advice mode.
You are doing well - trust your own instincts tempered by the wise counsel of others.

Respectfully,
Lee

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#389411 - 03/15/12 08:15 PM Re: WENT to Juvie - Done [Re: traveler]
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Edited by lapchinj (03/17/13 09:08 PM)
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#389414 - 03/15/12 08:35 PM Re: WENT to Juvie - Done [Re: JustScott]
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I personally think you made the right decision. I took a job that put me as an emotional benefit for a group that needed it, but it was at a cost to my children. It was a short period but I would not chose it now.

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#389421 - 03/15/12 11:00 PM Re: WENT to Juvie - Done [Re: dancr6]
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Well done, Rob. Your own kids will be very blessed by this decision. There will always be other kids who will need to be ministered to at other times, but you only have a short, fleeting moment with your own.

Peace,

John

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#389437 - 03/16/12 12:21 AM Re: WENT to Juvie - Done [Re: Fissy Tsickens]
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Robbie,

That was an important milestone and an important victory in your life.

Puffer


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#389705 - 03/18/12 02:15 PM Re: WENT to Juvie - Done [Re: pufferfish]
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My T looked at me fully stumped or disgusted that I let the opportunity go. = feel like a complete idiot as usual.

The Juvie Chaplain never wrote back (and he always replies to emails right away). = feel like dried dog sht on their pathway.

Can't say "nice try," cuz none of this is nice.

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#389746 - 03/18/12 11:52 PM Re: WENT to Juvie - Done [Re: Still]
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Edited by lapchinj (03/17/13 09:15 PM)
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#389755 - 03/19/12 12:54 AM Re: WENT to Juvie - Done [Re: Still]
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Robbie, you can't help anyone else if you're screwed up too. Don't confuse courage with ignoring your problems. I did that mostly because no clue what to do 15 years ago. It's easier to run away from your problems and "help" others. Truth is, you're not really helping anyone and destroying yourself in the process. I did exactly what you're doing (on a smaller scale). Granted I didn't have the help I needed available to me then (shitty therapists only). Maybe you're the same place I was. Today, I don't have the help I need either but at least I'm working on myself. No offense, but that's what you're doing. You can't run away from your problems and fill them with something else forever. That's what you're doing. Your motives are wrong. Let me help these kids so I'll look noble ignoring my own kids and family. Yeah, that'll work. Do you really need to "pray" to anyone to see that dude? This is what some call "calling out another person's bullshit." Avoiding today's problems for sometime tomorrow is only gonna hurt you more tomorrow. Yeah, that's what I saw those 10-20-30 year alcoholics do in AA meetings because they did it to themselves.

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#389771 - 03/19/12 08:50 AM Re: WENT to Juvie - Done [Re: phoenix321]
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I can see this Phoenix. Thanks

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