Men who have sex with other men. Does it really matter if its CSA or Orientation, its what he wants regardless of why? I think some ask that cuz the logical extrapolation is then if they get help with the CSA issues will it change their attraction to men? Or is it their orientation irrespective of the initial CSA?
He is a man who IS having and wants to have more sex with men. He may be hetero at times but by definition there is this part of his libido. Men and woman can act in a sexual way with someone without an actual desire for it. Close your eyes it could be anyone's hand on your genitals. However a frequent urge to be with a specific guy and a positive fantasy goes to an actual orientation.
He will enjoy it at the time, no question. The question you pose is could he not enjoy it? Yes afterwards if the action was driven by desparation, repression, compulsion. There will be guilt and shame cuz it was like something inside him forced him to do it. In other words just random any prick will do kind of thing.
But if the exact same scenario was thought out with a specific guy, he likes or has CHOSEN then this is a different thing. Its done with forsight and thoughtfulness. That is an orientation that is desirable even if kissing or hanging out is not.
I know gay men that do not kiss, its too personal and vulnerable for them. Others have buddies they "play" with but would not dream about going to dinner with. However it looks, Its all just
MEN HAVING SEX WITH MEN.
The need for love lies at the very foundation of human existence. Dalai Lama
WoR Barrie 2011