I accepted what happened it has shaped who I am
Well Tohui, you're ahead of the game at least with that realization right there. SO SO Many guys I've talked to who have abusive things in their past operate under the statement that "That was a long time ago, it doesn't effect me anymore...". I don't disagree or argue with them, but I know better. Many times I can see the effects oozing out in every decision they make, but I can't force them to see it. It's work they have to do themselves and their still in denial about it all.
I'm hypersensitive too. I've actually found it to be an asset. I know who's being honest, who's lying, who's just embellishing their story to make it sound better. Yes I can tell when someone is hurting and what have you. Many times though I have no clue what to do to help or even if I should.
I'd say take your time in all this, but I know better. Most when they get here rush through this maddening race to get it all figured out. That's fine, I did it too. There will come a time when suddenly it feels like all time has stopped, the pain, and anger, it'll all suddenly be there. I can't say be ready for it, because nothing can prepare you. Just know, that when that moment arrives, we'll all be here for you.
"We few, we happy few, we band of brothers. For he today that sheds his blood with me shall be my brother;"
We are a band. I wounded, surviving band. Together we'll stand, helping one another along.