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#387530 - 02/27/12 05:16 PM Re: Coping Skills [Re: KMCINVA]
Treehugger75 Offline


Registered: 02/08/12
Posts: 158
Loc: Ontario Canada
So far I have a short list.

1) Simple awareness
2) Intentional breathing
3) Failures

I hope to incorporate more and allow others to fade into my subconcious as I progress in my healing.



Edited by Treehugger75 (02/27/12 05:16 PM)
Edit Reason: oh and i read and edit posts
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#387535 - 02/27/12 06:18 PM Re: Coping Skills [Re: Treehugger75]
traveler Offline
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Registered: 02/07/06
Posts: 3771
Loc: somewhere in Africa
Tree-
What do you mean by "Failures"?!
If that were a coping technique - i'd be doing GREAT!!!!
There must be more you're not saying...
Lee

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#387694 - 02/28/12 09:39 PM Re: Coping Skills [Re: KMCINVA]
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Registered: 08/31/11
Posts: 2245
Tonight I had to practice. In the house accused of things outloud. I realized it is a control technique, yelled so children can hear and within a minute the child is yelling echoing the same words and then onto my acting out, details which are not quite accurate. So be it, I lost it shortly and internalized my affirmations. It worked. I feel at ease but admit I could feel the abuse but put it into a proper perspective. Even was able say they have not attempted to understand CSA but dismiss it as something that does impact a life. I actually am sad for tbeir inability to even try to understand how CSA and abuse and how it can destroy. But it is something I cannot dismiss I will live with it and heal. Coping is hard but can be learned. Thanks for all the insights.


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#441594 - 07/21/13 10:02 AM Re: Coping Skills [Re: Avery46]
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Registered: 08/29/12
Posts: 699
I happened to stumble upon this post today - what a great read.

Originally Posted By: Avery46

1. Prayer.
2. Meditation.
3. Staying connected with others.
4. Being there for others.
5. Having fun in my life - recovery can not be done 100% of the time. I was doing recovery 100% of the time and I fell.
6. Go for walks.
7. Listen to others.
8. Be present.
9. Live life today.
10.See my therapist weekly.
11.Stay sober - for me means I need to attend meetings weekly.
12.Prayer.
13.Read affirmations of worth for myself and others.
14.Journal.
15.take care of my daily needs.


Playing or listening to music is the best way I cope, I think. Also reading the daily affirmations on MS. I talked to one of the moderators a few days ago and he's suggested I write out a list of positive traits I can think of about myself and reading it everyday. Exercise (soccer for me) does wonders too.

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#441627 - 07/21/13 07:30 PM Re: Coping Skills [Re: whome]
bey Offline


Registered: 01/28/10
Posts: 324
Loc: canada
Hey husky, thanks for bumping this thread. Also, thanks to everyone who has posted in it way back when,
I have realized that I have very few reasonable coping skills and start falling back on unhealthy ones when push comes to shove.
Here is my list of things I should be doing to help me get through tough moments...
1. Listening to music, singing, playing guitar. Sometimes I can't figure out how I am feeling until I can sing a song that sums it up for me.
2. Go for a walk, ride my bike or skateboard. Get out of the house and out of my head.
3. Physical affection with safe people. Realizing I need a lot of physical touch to feel safe, but gotta make sure it's healthy and all that. A hug, holding someone's hand, whatever.
4. take a deep breath, stay present, name things in the room, try to bring down anxiety and confusion by reminding myself of where and when I am.
5. Have fun
6. Laugh, call someone who makes me laugh
7. Swing. I have this huge adult man sized swing on a tree in the backyard. Awesome.
8. Go to support group, NA or lifering, or SAISA meeting
9. Karaoke. 'Nuff said.
10. Call my therapist
11. Go to meditation group
12. Cartwheels.
13. Write to myself
14. Write to someone else
15. Do something nice for someone

That's all I can think of, but a better list than the one I'm currently using wink
Thanks for the ideas.
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#441641 - 07/21/13 09:33 PM Re: Coping Skills [Re: whome]
victor-victim Offline


Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 5521
Loc: O Kanada
these are the positive coping mechanisms i still use.

smile coffee break.
smile malesurvivor.org.
smile mirror meditations.
smile breathing exercises.
smile positive affirmations.
smile live theater or music.
smile prayer and bible study.
smile read a book or solve a puzzle.
smile nature walks and mountain hikes.
smile play, practice, and perform guitar.
smile write a letter, story, song or poem. just write.
smile call or visit a friend or family member that cares.

any one or combination of the above works for me 100% guarantee.

i have intentionally left out the quick fix coping methods that compound existing problems, or involve unhealthy risks and results.
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