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#374554 - 11/07/11 11:45 AM Searching for books on memory work
cris40ky Offline
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Registered: 06/20/11
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Did a long search through the male survivor bibliography and Amazon for books focusing on early childhood and memory.

Couldn't find anything that wasn't a text book and wasn't $50 or more.

I'm certain that survivor books out there cover this issue. I'm asking if any of you guys recall books you have used that had good sections/chapters on this?

Specifically memories from very early childhood: 0-5 yrs old.

Thanks,
Chris


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#374666 - 11/08/11 02:44 PM Re: Searching for books on memory work [Re: cris40ky]
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ANATOMY OF THE SOUL by Curt Thompson has some interesting explanations of memory that helped my re-think my desire to re-remember. Also, his explanation of Attachment theory was interesting.

All the best,
aaron

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#383744 - 01/28/12 09:06 PM Re: Searching for books on memory work [Re: learning2remember]
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Found the 2nd edition of "Victims No Longer". It has better info on memories.

Best book found so far is "The Body Remembers" by Babette Rothschild.

It is readable but a little bit clinical. She describes how memory is formed in both normal and traumatic situations. Explained a lot! About how PTSD forms and expresses itself. Especially comforting to me is the understanding that the side of the brain developing skills like organization and time placement ( such as what happened first, next, and when it all happened) Does not mature to be a functional part of the brain until age 3. That's when those concepts start to be formed.

It explains why physical sensations for me can be so pronounced without any clear concept of who, what, when, and where. I'm getting there! But I don't have to doubt my experiences just because I can't lay out the narrative like a>

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#383840 - 01/30/12 08:46 AM Re: Searching for books on memory work [Re: cris40ky]
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Have you read "Too Scared to Cry" by Lenore Terr (psychologist)? It can be triggering, because it recounts some CSA and abductions that were in the news, but it looks at how the kids reacted to different crises. Among survivors, "there's something in it for everyone"... unfortunately.

And thanx for the info on "The Body Remembers." Many of my flashbacks are sort of "disembodied" sensations that seem to be related to that Bad Stuff from long ago. Some folks use the term "body memories," which I think just invites ridicule by the ignorant (and disingenuous defense lawyers) because it suggests that memories can be stored in various parts of the body. But as survivors know all too well, "it's all in our heads."

John


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#383911 - 01/31/12 01:08 AM Re: Searching for books on memory work [Re: unhappycamper]
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I have found that certain movies are powerful tools for helping me "remember" emotions.

For example, there is a movie that shows a grandfather who greatly resembles my own grandfather. The movie is from a book.

The movie is: The Education of Little Tree.

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0119052/

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Education_of_Little_Tree

Another movie helped me remember the emotions of child kidnapping:

I'm Not Scarred

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0326977/

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=atLGsOg6lBY

Flight of the Innocent depicts escape of a child from a predator.

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0104012/

Jet Boy shows how an orphan boy can get involved in stuff:

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0104012/

Oliver Twist also shows the vulnerability of an orphan boy:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xpYVXdpm6zg

Use Netflix, Google or Amazon.com to search for movies.

Why?? Pictures can bring about memories of emotions that words can't reach. The pictures can be used to help PTSD. Make sure you're ready for it, though!

Puffer





Edited by pufferfish (01/31/12 01:48 AM)

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#383960 - 01/31/12 03:27 PM Re: Searching for books on memory work [Re: pufferfish]
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The idea is to watch a movie which seems to re-enact childhood memories. When it brings your memories up and you cry, then it has a healing effect. In doing so it is healing PTSD. Watch the movie several times and you should see that the emotions decrease. Watch out, though: If you react too strongly then you're not ready for it and/or you need to watch it only with help from a therapist or wait until you're sure you are ready for it.

Some more videos which might help with memory work:

Abuse by older boys:

http://www.sloppynoodle.com/wp/robert-brown-a-childhood-worth-forgetting-cbn-com/

Movie where a boy is beaten badly by other boys and develops severe PTSD. Later he returns to his home town and again encounters his abuser:

As It Is in Heaven (Swedish film with Eng. subtitles)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iW70YQrTpvI

Abuse by father (Spanish with English subtitles):

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nGclzgw2dyM

Puffer


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#387654 - 02/28/12 05:43 PM Re: Searching for books on memory work [Re: cris40ky]
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Loc: Ontario Canada
I'd start by finding out how I store memories and then find an expert in that technique.

What worked for me for free was

learning about Platonic realism (universalia ante res)
Reading everything I could on the functioning of the aparatus (noodle)
I'm sure you'll come across the right book for you smile
I found mine.

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#392351 - 04/05/12 08:00 PM Re: Searching for books on memory work [Re: Treehugger75]
cris40ky Offline
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Loc: KY, US
Two more books:

"Repressed Memories" by Renee Fredrickson

"Betrayal Trauma" by Jennifer Freyd 1992

And thanks for the other suggestions! 1996

Chris

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