I agree with you about the belief/thought that others are better than me is responsible for so much isolation from others. It makes perfect sense too. Perhaps it's a belief that gets instilled in us when and after we are abused as children. It also didn't help me growing up in an alcoholic family. I think the more and more things that cause isolation from others the more and more we'll believe that we are less than others. It just seems to be a companion to shame. Alive makes good sense in that the more we accept ourselves (being honest about who we are) the less we'll want to hide from others. It seems to me that this would decrease the shame and isolation that we feel. The kicker (if you will) is that in order to accept ourselves we really have to be accepted by others first. Self-acceptance is a derivative of social acceptance. We can't heal in isolation.
I see recovery as a lifelong journey rather than a final destination, a journey, though, which can have many successes along the way.
WoR Alumnus - Hope Springs, OH, October 2009
My avatar is the farmhouse at the Hope Spring, OH WoR. It's a nice place.