Why woul you be bashed for a good post?
Well... I was afraid that you and other survivors might not actually be survivors yet. Those who are still in victimhood might use me as their punching bag. Why this happens, I'm not quite sure, but I've been a punching bag for others here a time or two.
Maybe those who attack posters with insults and taunts do so because they are personally threatened by the hard topics?
I am learning that one who has transitioned from victim to survivor has given up that defensive stance, is actively and eagerly looking for the "holes" in his stunted emotional/sexual development, and is increasingly able to see and empathize with another's pain.
To me, the survivor responses/participation in this thread are indicitive of SURVIVORHOOD. Until receiving your non-reactive, healthy, mature, thoughful, humble, validating response to a post that was not merely filled with rainbows and unicorns, I kept my gloves up to protect my head.
As it is a healing, productive exercise in conversing with my husband about the hard things these days, it is healing and productive conversing with other survivors here, too. Survivors' posts help me regain a feeling of safety. Survivors' posts, when they mirror words and tell of actions my husband demonstrates, help fill me with hope that I CAN trust that we are on a true path of healing.
Victims' posts/replies can be a "blast from the past"- a trip back down a road so painful, so abusive, so destructive, that I will forever be truly afraid of traversing again.
Your posts identify you as a survivor. I'm not afraid of survivors- by their own healing, survivors help heal others. But I remain terrified of victims.
I hope this makes sense???