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#38707 - 05/10/05 04:26 AM Re: Escapism, what do you do?
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Registered: 12/26/04
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As my name implies, I can disassociate with the best of them.

My favorite intentional escape was either laying on a sunny beach or long distance running. Nothing like a good 20 mile run full of endorphins. The world just ceases to exist. Aftewards, you are too tired to care any more!

Danny


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#38708 - 01/31/06 03:39 AM Re: Escapism, what do you do?
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Registered: 11/10/04
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Loc: North Texas
Hi all, Besides SF books, I also used to listen to old time radio shows, on a Crystal radio in the shape of a pen. I would listen till late at night.

The reason I bring it up is that almost all of the old shows are in the public domain now. There are a lot of places on the net, that you can find them, some for free.

Free, but not to good quality.

The Cobalt Club, Old Time Radio forum, free

A list of places to get you started.

Take care,
Lostcowboy

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"Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow. Don't walk behind me, I may not lead. Just walk beside me and be my friend." - Albert Camus
Pretty much my life as I have posted so far. Triggers!

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#38710 - 02/01/06 07:08 AM Re: Escapism, what do you do?
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Registered: 12/21/04
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Escapism is a wonderful mechanism but it doesn't work for long, it is like travelling the world, without knowing the beauty that lies in you.

if you dont want to deal with pain, you escape, but where can you esacpe it is boulder you carrying within your self, everywhere you go, you can clos eyour eyes but woudl it help.

I carried my boulder for many year, till it brought my life to a grinding halt.

I often used to get lost in movies, their imaginary worlds , I loved the characters their happy endings, as it helped me imagine my own.

But that didnt help at all, just like getting too involved in other people's lives and misery. We all have our boulder to shed, and no one else can do it for the other.

But the worst kind of escapism I have experienced is emotional escapism, when I learnt to escape within yourself, from my emotions, I would go on for days without realising that I am depressed or just pissed, I would act out in various ways without addressing my emotions or the trigger.

As I learnt to disassociate from my pain, I learnt to tune out and get busy, getting busy was my most favourite thing to do. Speeding up my life, I would hardly notice anything wrong, everything looks beautiful and smug from a moving train.

Slowing down would have meant facing my truth, my pain, that I wasn't capable of handling.

So I learnt to meditate that gave me safe tools to deal with my pain, to release it without my mind going all nuts thinking, O lord I AM in pain, or that I cant take it any more ...

Because when I stopped mattering to myself, I stopped mattering to any one else, no onenoticed my pain as I had masked it so well, and that didnt help at all.

I got resentful secretly against myself and everyone else for ignoring me, and my pain., I looked towards the world to acknowledge my pain and that I have got a raw deal, while I wasn't willing to do that myself.

The one day it came to me that after so many people loving me and giving me sympathy I still dont feel loved, that is when I figured that what has been troubling me is not the world's APATHY but my own.

As I started tuning into my self more intensely, I learnt to fell my pain more intensely when I was IN pain. Soon I realised that I was never IN pain, it is just the energy of pain that was passing thru me, and when I felt it completely it would go away, I somehow healed it thru my acceptance.

The solution for me was to feel it. Feel myself, know self and in turn I learnt to care for my self, I felt cared and yes eventually loved.

NOw what I am learning to tune into myself more sharply and notice small 'skirmishes' within as they start building thru the day, before they boil over into a major calamity, as an angry episode or making things in my life go haywire.

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~ It's over!...Let go of Thy Past, Remember Thy Self ~

Why Don't People Heal, by Caroline Myss; 30 days to clean up your vibrations - Abraham-Hicks

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#38711 - 02/01/06 07:14 AM Re: Escapism, what do you do?
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Today when I know that pain is my healer why would I run away from it, when it has come to teach me something about myself, then I should rather respect it and learn the lesson. Otherwise it would have to come again and again till I agree to learn what I had asked life teach me. It is my life->
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Why Don't People Heal, by Caroline Myss; 30 days to clean up your vibrations - Abraham-Hicks

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#38712 - 02/01/06 07:15 AM Re: Escapism, what do you do?
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Registered: 12/21/04
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Learning is the best way to escape pain.

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~ It's over!...Let go of Thy Past, Remember Thy Self ~

Why Don't People Heal, by Caroline Myss; 30 days to clean up your vibrations - Abraham-Hicks

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#38713 - 02/01/06 07:53 AM Re: Escapism, what do you do?
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Registered: 12/21/04
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Found this crazy website which talked about this concept called 'Menstrual Hut for Men', where men can go and rant and bitch regularly to cleanse their system of the toxic emotions, what nature does for women naturally, each month.

http://www.freewillastrology.com/

PS: Sounds quite close to what MS stands for us.
;\)

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Why Don't People Heal, by Caroline Myss; 30 days to clean up your vibrations - Abraham-Hicks

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