Maybe some of you rememeber Julian. Clever, positive, funny, loved music. He was one of my friends in the teens forum when it existed. He went silent for 10 months. He passed away 9 months ago. We found out today.

this is so so wrong... he talked me out of suicide once... he saved me once, as we often did back then..but nobody could save him. Nobody was there to ask him if he needed to talk. He will never know how much I will miss him. He was so brilliant. Seriously brilliant. He would have been somebody.

Idk what hurts the most, the fact he didnt keep his promise or the fact I failed him.

I wish I believed in life after death. I wish he felt safe for once.

Sorry for your loss.
You didn't fail him, it's a sad thing but try remember the good times.

Take care, ok?

Daniel, I am very sorry for your loss and your pain,
This may sound silly, but............ I am glad he helped you to go on and live your life to help others as he helped you.

Maybe, just Maybe, Julian was your Angel. Through you, he still lives.

Blessings

Daniel,

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. You were there for him but he chose not to have contact with others. He must have been in terrible pain, too much for him to handle. The abuse affects each of us differently and how we are able to handle it.

I know this is not consolation, but he is now at peace. Take care of yourself and remember he helped you, and now you can remember him by cherishing each day and helping others.

Kevin

Daniel,

Death is just the collateral damage of incest. I pray for your friend. May your life continue with the healing necessary to thrive.

Oh how my heart weeps for one I could have met. my belief in life after death is tenuous at best. I pray for peace for you that he could not find him self. Your strength is an honour to all of us who will appreciate his memory vicariously. Peace, love and grace to you and thank you for sharing this bitter pill to swallow.

Daniel,

This sucks. My heart aches for anyone who chooses to take their own life, and thus, negates ANY chance of recovery and seeing how beautiful life is.

I want to say something - YOU DID NOT FAIL HIM!!! You mentioned that he stopped communicating, and then was gone. He chose to isolate, and he chose to take the action he did. You had no control over his actions or his choices.

This, I hope, shows why keeping secrets, hiding, and isolating is so dangerous for all of us. Our task is simple, but hard. We HAVE to reach out, we HAVE to talk to others, we HAVE to let others in, and we HAVE to expose our secrets to trusted others. Recovery is impossible without it.

I hope that you recover from your pain quickly, and can heal your wounds. Please don't beat yourself up because of someone else's choices.

D

Here are some links to Julian's posts:

Removed because it was the wrong Julian. Sorry.

Puffer

Daniel,

I weep at this loss. I am sorry for your loss. I remember Julian well. I remember talking with him in chat. I remember his posts. Daniel, you did NOT fail him.

I weep for you. Please Please my dear friend, be well. It is so hard being here at times. It is hard because we are there for each other during the worst of times and seemingly the best of times but, we do not really know for sure.

You, Daniel are a very dear friend to me.

Peace,
Avery