My own reality is CSA 6-19. So both right? My husband who isn't a member here is survivor of SA during adulthood. He and I discuss issues that come up during our relationship. He is an A & D rehabilitations counselor / case manager, he talks about inner child stuff. I don't talk about it much, but it is a component of my own CSA recovery. It is a terrible thing for any survivor to have been excluded or ignored. SA and CSA violate us so severely and damage us so deeply that being able to claim your power again and see the road back to the man or boy you used to be before all this occurred is a gift. If an SA Survivor needs to be validated as a man who can protect himself again and stride confidently down the middle of the path as he used to, then inner child references may isolate his recovery and waste his time. If a CSA survivor who is 5 times larger now than he was when he was powerless, (as I who now am 6'5" and 300+ lbs vs 4' 2" and 86 lbs) he may find it only useful to completely understand that he was not able to protect himself when it happened. Either way the common elements are to accept the SA & CSA, understand the elements involved in recovery, and protection of the man who is in the present. I applaud all of you who face any violation such as these we have been discussing.
Geoff

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It was not our inner man but the inner self we thought we were and it hampers our capacity to connect with the ideal man we seek to become.

Tyr,

Well Said.

Thank you.

G

thanks dude

We encourage responses that provide common ground throughout recovery of male sexual abuse. This forum for Adult Sexual Abuse Survivors strives to focus on the experiences and the issues in surviving and eventual recovery of this specific field, men abused as adults. Although offered in the best of intention, it can feel condescending, even patronizing to hear about the path other survivors have taken. This group, these men, have had a terrible assault, and they wish to find their own path of healing, and they have asked for limits as to the sharing and yes, even the support other male survivors can offer.

As MaleSurvivor has become a home to us men who have survived child abuse, so too must this forum be a safe haven for men who have survived abuse as an adult. We enjoy the safety and connections that this site affords us, and so too must we respect the desire of these men to find their 'home'. We are connected to these in this forum, and we may interact with them when we can share with them on the level they have asked. In knowledge and interest with an adult perspective, defining recovery in adult abuse terms, terms that are different from other abuse conditions suffered as males. Let us enjoy each other within those protective confines, that we may all experience the best of this healing environment.

Best Regards,

Sam

Tyr, I think one thing that you have to remember is that everyone comes here for different reasons and everyone's wants are different. I think this is a great question to bring up to find out what people specifically need (besides a safe place for only ASA which has been brought up) or why people are not posting. I would suggest that maybe you start a new thread so that it gets more attention asking your question.

if you look back i did that a few times in the past. im getting burned out

Maybe you need to take a break