His dad still wants to look after him himself which is crazy, a lot of unhealthy relationships have been going on. I pray the rest of his family and me get help also and realise all these unhealthy patterns of co dependency.
Most recovery programs incorporate the family into the patient's recovery. It's vital that those close to the patient understand the recovery process and are prepared to participate for the sake of the sufferer.
To accomplish this, the psychiatrist will undoubtedly want to talk to you to better ascertain the conditions in which the patient lives and to discover any areas that could derail recovery. If your beloved's health care team doesn't set up a meeting with the family, you should request one! You are very, very much a part of his recovery, which will require he goes home to a safe, secure environment. You or his parents will have to provide that environment. You must be helped and supported in this!
Also, if you have a member of the clergy to turn to, (at your own place of worship or the pastoral staff at the hospital) you might consider contacting him/her.
A visit from a trusted pastor can provide much comfort and hope to one who is so depressed/ill. Oftentimes, the clergy has special training in offering spiritual support along with medical attention. S/he can possibly suggest support groups and other resources for you and your beloved. The clergy member can also provide valuable support for YOU! At the very least, the clergy can offer prayer for your loved one. Sometimes the worship community has a "prayer line" that consists of many people praying specifically for the sufferer.
You've done the very best for your sweetheart! It's a very hard thing to do, but now the healing can begin in earnest! There is light at the end of the dark tunnel you're in! Have faith and take care of yourself, too!!!