having been abusive in my life, there are a lot of people who i need to apologize to as well. i would never expect that by the virtue of my apology, should all of my wrongdoing be absolved and i be granted forgiveness. i would simply want them to know how i feel about it and that i take responsibility for it.
And that is what I want to hear from my perp. There are others who have deeply hurt me from whom I wish to hear an apology. To me, a wound can't truly be healed until it stops bleeding. Some may disagree, but the blood will always flow until I hear two heart felt words - I apologize - when someone has truly put a dagger through my heart.