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#384334 - 02/04/12 04:41 PM Re: inner child question [Re: redsox046]
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Registered: 11/04/10
Posts: 276
Loc: U.S.A.
I agree with what you said redsox. Focusing on letting it go, honestly dealing with the trauma and not becoming the same victim i was then is exactly what I think one should subscribe to in recovery. Not being the scared child anymore. Learning I have more strength than my feelings would imply sometimes. Learning my feelings can be controlled. Actively pursuing strength. I'm hoping any of these ideas ive just shared takes hold in the heart of another.

Become your best asset.

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#384340 - 02/04/12 06:04 PM Re: inner child question [Re: Tyler845]
Chase Eric Offline
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When I was young I was so convinced that the adults just didn't "get it" (perhaps for VERY good reason) that I made a pact with myself that I would never forget what being twelve felt like. I remember that "agreement" well, and as an adult I am still very much in touch with the same feelings and perspectives little eric had. It hasn't stopped me from growing and maturing, getting an education and changing my points of view. But I have always respected that core in me.

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#384401 - 02/05/12 01:43 AM Re: inner child question [Re: Mountainous Buck]
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Registered: 08/01/11
Posts: 18
What if you were still a child? What are the things you wish had happened back then to heal your pain? Suppose you did tell someone (one of your parents) about the abuse when you were still a child. What do you think they could have done to help you? Thanks, I am a desperate mom trying to help my 6yo son.



Edited by pat8 (02/05/12 01:43 AM)

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#384402 - 02/05/12 01:44 AM Re: inner child question [Re: alone]
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Edited by lapchinj (03/16/13 05:08 PM)
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Forgiveness is giving up on the hope that what the past was could have been any different or better.
It's accepting the past for what it was, and using this moment and this time to help yourself move forward.

It will get better....

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#384406 - 02/05/12 01:56 AM Re: inner child question [Re: pat8]
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Edited by lapchinj (03/16/13 05:08 PM)
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Forgiveness is giving up on the hope that what the past was could have been any different or better.
It's accepting the past for what it was, and using this moment and this time to help yourself move forward.

It will get better....

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#384407 - 02/05/12 01:58 AM Re: inner child question [Re: lapchinj]
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Registered: 07/26/11
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Loc: Sacramento
Your still that little boy who was molested and pimped out. You will be stuck in that setting; still there is hope you can move on Jeff. Walk past all of that and become that father/husband that you have become. You are a great Dad and Husband Jeff, come into the light.
WOW!!! Your 61? You sure have maintained you youth Boy!

Be proud,
Love,

Don

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#384408 - 02/05/12 02:01 AM Re: inner child question [Re: Lo Don]
lapchinj Offline
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Edited by lapchinj (03/16/13 05:08 PM)
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Forgiveness is giving up on the hope that what the past was could have been any different or better.
It's accepting the past for what it was, and using this moment and this time to help yourself move forward.

It will get better....

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#384409 - 02/05/12 02:02 AM Re: inner child question [Re: lapchinj]
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Posts: 18
Thanks, Jeff. He already saw one for 6 months in a crisis intervention center. She thought he was just fine, compared to the other kids she sees. I was not convinced and as soon as he stopped going there, he started re-enacting the abuse, for me only. He is seeing another therapist now, and I am seeing another one who will do rapid eye movement therapy for ptsd on him as soon as he is ready to talk about it with other people.

But, how about me? What do you think I should do that would make a huge difference in his life?


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#384410 - 02/05/12 02:12 AM Re: inner child question [Re: pat8]
lapchinj Offline
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Edited by lapchinj (03/16/13 05:08 PM)
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Forgiveness is giving up on the hope that what the past was could have been any different or better.
It's accepting the past for what it was, and using this moment and this time to help yourself move forward.

It will get better....

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#384412 - 02/05/12 02:33 AM Re: inner child question [Re: lapchinj]
Chase Eric Offline
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Registered: 10/25/10
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Oh my God, Pat. I'm so sorry. I totally am behind Jeff's ideas. Professional help (a GOOD therapist), stay engaged, trust your gut.

I'm swyping this out on an android keyboard so I can't add much but I pray for you and child...

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