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#385407 - 02/12/12 02:02 AM Re: SSA or Gay... [Re: westchesterguy]
lapchinj Offline

Registered: 06/07/11
Posts: 1406
Loc: New York
Peace,Rainbows & Healing

Edited by lapchinj (03/16/13 11:22 PM)
Stick around, It will get better....

#463157 - 03/25/14 03:25 PM Re: SSA or Gay... [Re: Chase Eric]
jas4159 Offline

Registered: 06/16/11
Posts: 312
i think the csa abuse has little to do with sexual orientation. it is an act of opportunity and violence. i also struggled with confused feelings of sexuality. but in the end i did not see myself as gay - just a kid who was groomed and brainwashed into believing things about myself that were not true.


#482978 - 05/27/15 04:36 PM Re: SSA or Gay... [Re: Anthony39]
victor-victim Offline

Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 5707
Loc: O Kanada
Dear Anthony39,
you said so many brilliant and poignant things, it was difficult to condense it, but i tried to boil it down to the best essentials.

Originally Posted By: Anthony39
Lets face it we are men, and sex is very important. We think about is a lot. It's part of being male.

Originally Posted By: Anthony39
I think SSA and gay are labels, imprinting because of abuse? pavlovian responses? maybe. But at the end of the day call it what you want, its part of who we are now. We can repress it, exorcise it, ignore it, embrace it, it's a personal choice.

Originally Posted By: Anthony39
We would all agree that we are looking for a balance and some peace in our lives. I agree with Castle , it is a quest for intimacy , genuine feelings, and real relationships.

Originally Posted By: Anthony39
The world is not black and white, it's a spectrum upon which we fall within one end or the other or somewhere in the middle.

Originally Posted By: Anthony39
The important thing is who we are as a person. Our ability to relate to others, to love , to trust, to laugh, to be confident about our place in the world.

thank you for putting it out there.


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