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#383269 - 01/23/12 07:02 PM Re: Is it Stockholm Syndrome? [Re: peroperic2009]
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Very interesting... seems to fit on many points... I'll try to read more on the topic.
Thanks,
Lee

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#383274 - 01/23/12 07:49 PM Re: Is it Stockholm Syndrome? [Re: peroperic2009]
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Sorry Traveler. I did not mean that post to undermine your benefit of the syndrome ID. I was merely commenting that set labels only work to frustrate me. i meant no harm by it.

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#383277 - 01/23/12 08:39 PM Re: Is it Stockholm Syndrome? [Re: Still]
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Thanks, Robbie! That means a lot. No offense taken. I also resist and resent many of the "signs" I've been forced to wear. Sometimes by trying one on, I find out what does and does not fit.

Regards,
Lee

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#383318 - 01/23/12 11:44 PM Re: Is it Stockholm Syndrome? [Re: traveler]
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Originally Posted By: traveler
...Avery - any keys to stopping the comparisons?
I have a lifetime's practice in NOT seeing myself as acceptable - much less as seeing myself as ideal. Somehow repeating mantras and affirmations has never worked for me cuz i have a hard time believing anybody - even myself on a conscious level - tho I guess I believe lots of garbage I tell myself under the radar....


traveler,

You are doing the "work" needed to understand yourself. I see getting to more and more "serenity" a journey. It will take time.

Also, I use meditation and self guided imagery along with self reflection. Can you write out positive affirmation?

Avery

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#383322 - 01/24/12 12:09 AM Re: Is it Stockholm Syndrome? [Re: peroperic2009]
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You know i am not one to often disagree...but Stockholm Syndrome is not exclusively between hostages and kidnappers...Shirley Julich for example has interesting qualitative research...(though I am struggling to find it, at this exact moment)...

and in that same fashion...I believe "The Betrayal Bond" to be the same exact flower by another name...


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#383346 - 01/24/12 11:46 AM Re: Is it Stockholm Syndrome? [Re: 1islandboy]
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Hay everybody,
maybe I've coshed wrong word: exclusive. I wonted to say that I've herd and learned about Stockholm Syndrome by many sources related mostly and only to kidnapping and hostages. Nevertheless, as I've proceeded last night with book "The Betrayal Bond" I've found part where author describes how experts are using phrase "Stockholm Syndrome" for traumatic bonding. So Island you were completely right smile. And Traveler It seems to me that you should explore further this subject to find some answers. This author says that this kind of bonding could happen to everyone, it is not needed huge time to make such bond (there are examples with very short time: couple of days or one week of traumatic environment was enough for traumatic bonding). And this kind of bond lasted for very long time. In some cases bond lasted "forever". So in a way this sounds to me like paradox.
If I'll find something interesting I'll write it...
Let us all become masters of breaking those bonds smile!

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#391513 - 03/30/12 10:35 AM Re: Is it Stockholm Syndrome? [Re: traveler]
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Edited by lapchinj (03/16/13 05:16 PM)
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#391734 - 04/01/12 02:03 AM * [Re: peroperic2009]
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