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#382086 - 01/11/12 12:24 PM Working slowly
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Does anyone work at what others would consider a slow pace? Seems like it takes me longer to do things than other people (at work in particular). Anyone else find this or is this just a personal issue and not a survivor issue??

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#382088 - 01/11/12 12:37 PM Re: Working slowly [Re: onlyakid]
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I have the opposite issue. As I live in a constant state of being anxious, I tend to rush through things and often miss some important things. I realize that I am worried about appearing stupid (I was told by the 9th grade shop teacher who failed me that my IQ was so low that I wouldn't be able to graduate from high school). I always want to appear as a smart "good boy" who has it all together. I am still working on dumping that desire! I am sure that being a survivor of my uncle's abuse has a piece in this as well as I learned my purpose in life was to fulfill his needs.

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#382148 - 01/12/12 01:01 AM Re: Working slowly [Re: ACRoberts]
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Allan,
I figured it out, our two problems are related. I was always making mistakes when I would rush so I guess I'm slowing down so that I dont make mistakes but I guess Im going too far.

Jason

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#382149 - 01/12/12 01:13 AM Re: Working slowly [Re: onlyakid]
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Originally Posted By: onlyakid
Does anyone work at what others would consider a slow pace? Seems like it takes me longer to do things than other people (at work in particular). Anyone else find this or is this just a personal issue and not a survivor issue??


I have always had that 'problem'. I'm now finding out that it's because of loss of brain connections due to CSA when I was a child. I always finished tests last. I think that structured exercises can help us a lot. I'm just starting to look into this. I've already mentioned several possibilities: Music, EMDR, Vision therapy and the right kind of talk therapy. Writing our stories also helps. But I think that there are probably some exercises out there that we can learn from. We might have to borrow and adapt them from the work being done with veterans. I'll keep working on this. You can join me in doing this if you like.

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#382155 - 01/12/12 02:38 AM Re: Working slowly [Re: pufferfish]
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I was always a "panic-worker." That is, I was always in "panic-mode," so that would translate into light-speed progress followed by parralizing panic where I could not get ANYTHING done. At that point (almost always 90-days into the new job) I'd be criticized, feel entrapped, and find a lifeboat job to jump to. It was constant hell and contributed greatly to two major suicide-oriented events.

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