Thanks for having the courage to start this post, One Day At A Time, and thanks to all of you men for the experience, strength & hope you share here. This is an important thread, basic to us as male survivors.
In my childhood and adolescence, men were in & out of my life rather quickly & briefly, more out than in. When they were there, they were neglectful or overtly abusive, sometimes sexually. All of the dominant adults in my life were domineering, controlling women, almost always abusive, usually sexually.
Thus, even tho I was surrogate husband to my mother and surrogate father to my brother, I had mostly bad models for manhood, and women who for the most part hated men.
Yep, this has made being a man very difficult. I mean, what is "a man" anyway? Especially when you toss the deliberately warped portrayals by much of the media into the mixed up mix. (Speaking of which, men, you might want to check out my post, "Are You A Mook?," in the Films forum.)
Well, at least I've gotten a pretty good idea of what a man isn't.
Now if I can figure out what it is.
And even more, live whatever that means for me!
One thing I know men, you--we--are all men in the truest sense of the word! We are male survivors!
"I can't stand pain. It hurts me."