Did I miss something in this thread? Did I misunderstand something? My first question in following the thread is why oh why you wouldn't use competent legal representation in this matter. Unlike bodyguard, I'm gonna turn a firehose on the parade. Reality check:
This is no time, imo, to engage in DIY. You think you're working on a hobby car's engine? It's likely the defendant WILL have legal representation. And you have NONE. You're dealing with adults. Do you really, really think, out of "respect" for you, he's going to do it himself, too? This isn't Small Claims Court. If I was in his position I'd literally take out a second mortgage to hire the nastiest legal guns I could afford. I can almost guarantee his attorney(s) will make mincemeat of you...and you may face a countersuit.
They'll get you confused, make you say things you don't mean to say, and kill your case. They're going to hire a PI and investigate every corner of your life, including, if they can make the connection, every one of the 254 public post you've made here on MS.
Do you even have the legal background to represent yourself? If you're asking about "how to file", then, no, you don't. I'm sorry to be the one to slap you down, brother, but you're definitely in over your head. (Better me, however, than the defendant's attorney).
It sounds as if he already has representation - to wit, "complaint lacks specifics" - and has you already jumping through hoops to amend. His attorney, by filing the objection, was also giving you a way out of this (a subtlety it sounds as if you didn't recognize). Defendant's already establishing himself as the Alpha dog and you're going along with it. He's made a potentially valid legal argument, too - probably the basis of his attorney's defense - that you're "jumping on the bandwagon". If I was the judge in the case, I'd have no choice but to agree and dismiss...possibly award his attorney fees as well. imo, from what little I can glean from the thread, you're setting yourself up to be re-victimized. imo, you're also setting yourself up to be (successfully) sued yourself.
You may be under the impression you "can't afford" an attorney. Wrong. Right now, you can't afford NOT to have an attorney.
From my own experience, here's how it goes: Consultations are typically free. If not, find someone else. Reputable attorneys on civil matters like this will work on contingency. Their fees are typically 40% of any judgment or settlement plus expenses. Just finding a competent attorney who specializes in these cases and with whom you are absolutely comfortable (i.e., someone to whom you can be/MUST be completely honest) can take weeks, if not months.
Wake up call put indelicately: you've really got your ass in the wringer. Find an attorney NOW who, even if he can't salvage it - personally, I have my doubts - can keep you from doing any more damage to yourself. I believe a responsible T, too, would have given you the same advice. So, I'd suggest finding a T as well.