He refuses to even acknowledge that my kids and I will now have a decent and respectable home. He was only happy when I had 2500 sq feet in THE neighborhood and a mountain house under construction. Now THAT is a respectable son!
What does your father know about respect and respectable behavior? Doesn't sound as if anyone will -- or should -- be calling him for his expertise in that area.
Despite that, his inability to be proud of you for the good man and loving, protective father you are has got to hurt. I'm sorry you're having to deal with his gross insensitivity and twisted values again.
I saw your thread about your new digs. It's GREAT and the change in neighborhood sounds perfect for you and your children. You are going to create a good life there for your family. Your exuberance about it is inspiring. REALLY!