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#37877 - 01/15/06 09:48 PM MaleSurvivor Funding
Nathan LaChine Offline
Webmaster
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 02/22/03
Posts: 5379
Loc: Washington State
Hello Guys,

As many of you know MaleSurvivor has helped change my life for the better. I would not be the man I am today without this site and the people that are here. I have lived in fear for years if not for MS I would still be living in fear. I can truly say that MS has saved me from my self.

We are working towards securing funding for MaleSurvivor and I need some help from everyone here. One of the requirements for the funding is letters/posts from members of how MaleSurvivor has helped them. We are only going to be pulling key words and sentences out of your kudos post to use in our application. This application is confidential and your name will not be used. If you do not feel comfortable posting this on the forum feel free to pm me your letter.

Please post so we may help other men and boys in need.


Thanks, Nathan


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#37878 - 01/16/06 12:24 AM Re: MaleSurvivor Funding
RICK57 Offline
Member

Registered: 12/31/03
Posts: 1611
Loc: ENGLAND
Male Survivor gave me the strength to take my abuser to court. It has allowed me to finally feel anger towards the perpetrator that sexualised my childhood! I hope he rots in a far worse hell than the one I have been in for 3 and a half decades! My friends at home help me - my brothers at Male Survivor understand me like no one else can!

Does anyone that could assist funding of this site (excluding current supporters / saints) really understand/care about boys being abused by men, or do they think it doesn't really happen that much? When it does happen, they probably think we just forget about it and get over it...WE DO NOT!

Rik...just getting more and more angry at the moment!

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*Never look down on anybody unless you're helping them up.
*I was seeking a way of expressing my anger - I found hope!
*There are many battles before the war is won! It can be won!

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#37879 - 01/16/06 06:25 AM Re: MaleSurvivor Funding
vhd11 Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 05/31/05
Posts: 115
Loc: NY
The support from the MaleSurvivor website is amazing. So many guys on the website have helped me through tough times as I was working through some denial of the abuse and then the anger. They pulled me through the storm, when my therapist could not. The Weekend of Recovery retreat helped me to refocus my healing journey and get more in touch with my feelings.

MaleSurvivor has more meaning for men recovering from trauma than outsiders could understand. Thank you MS!


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#37880 - 01/16/06 08:11 PM Re: MaleSurvivor Funding
Kirk Wayne Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 05/31/05
Posts: 499
Loc: Shrewsbury UK
The support thatMalesurvivor has given me over the last five years has been unprecidented, it has saved me from myself and my thoughts many a time during the wee small hours.

My wife lets me talk about my past abuse but I am afraid that she does not understand it whereas my fellow male survivors do, its very reassuring to know that you are not on your own and I was on my own for over thirty years.

I have lost four fellow survivors over the last year because there was nowhere for them to go. To not fund MaleSurvivor would condem others to take their own lives before their time. You never get over sexual abuse as a child but you do, with help, become more able to deal with the things that haunt you.

Kirk


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#37881 - 01/18/06 07:24 PM Re: MaleSurvivor Funding
Morning Star Offline
Member

Registered: 12/21/04
Posts: 1124
Loc: Home
I wouldn’t have known how to touch the light from my abyss if hadn’t had this hand to hold, this shaft of light falling right into my heart. Healing me, pulling me up and freeing me in the end.
Today I sing a freedom song, a song I learnt here. The words might be mine, but the rhythm is not. It came to me when I heard closely the hearts of men pouring out into this giant reservoir of violet and gold, of love and empowerment. Truly, this site has been about empowerment for me and a hymn that rises up to the heavens.

Join this journey unto the light!

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~ It's over!...Let go of Thy Past, Remember Thy Self ~

Why Don't People Heal, by Caroline Myss; 30 days to clean up your vibrations - Abraham-Hicks

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#37882 - 01/18/06 08:45 PM Re: MaleSurvivor Funding
The Seeker Offline
Member

Registered: 04/10/05
Posts: 141
Loc: Ohio, USA
MaleSurvivor was my compass when I was lost. It helped me identify this unending paing called abuse and all its symptoms. It helped me find others to learn that I want not alone, and not the only one. It helped me find the best therapist, one that understood where I was at and how to move forward. It helped me find good people, who had suffered like me, who picked me up when I had fallen, who cheered me on, who join me in celebrating my successes, and encouraged me to do the same. MaleSurvivor is not only a community of survivors, it is a community of support, caring, and living all in one. Without MaleSurvivor, I would still be lost.

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#37883 - 01/27/06 09:42 AM Re: MaleSurvivor Funding
lostcowboy Offline
Member

Registered: 11/10/04
Posts: 797
Loc: North Texas
Hi, how has MaleSurvivor helped me? This is going to be long, it's the only way I know how to tell it, so go get a drink, and some smoke's, as we will be here a while. 9 November 2004, I was on a singer's website, downloading her music, she had a forum there, which had a lot of happy (gay?) people on it. Right out of the blue, I was mad, through and through. What right did they have to be so happy, when my life had been going to hell in a hand basket! I had this almost insane desire to join their forum, and start my own message, with the title, (RAPE! It's Going to Get Rocky in Here!),and then telling my story. I battled with myself for about three hours, over whether I should do it or not. I finally turned off the computer, and went to bed, to a sleepless night. The next day I had decided what to do, if I had a desire to tell my story so bad, why not search on Google and see if there was a forum on male rape. Lately it seemed that you could find a forum about anything on the internet. Well there with all the porn sites about male rape, was malesurvivor.org, for some reason it didn't sound like it was about porn so I took a chance and clicked on it. As I read the survivor's stories, I knew immediately that I had found the right spot to talk about my rape, and how it had, and continue to effect me. It has been just over a year since I found this site. How has MaleSurvivor.org helped me? That is hard to explain, so let me try to say it this way. My grandmother's farm where I lived for a brief time had no indoor plumbing, It had a outhouse and a well where you drew up the water by hand. It is the middle of the night, and you have to go to the bathroom, and fell down the well. Somehow you survived the fall, and are threading water at the bottom of the well, but no one knows you are there. You are tired, dead tired, why not stop threading water, no one knows you are there. But you keep on. Suddenly out of nowhere there is a rope, and I can hear a lot of men on the other end of it telling me to just hang on to the rope and they will pull me out! Just hang on!
For me, malesurvivor.org is the Rope! The men on the other end of the rope are all the survivors on the site, they help me, and when I can, I help them. We are all connected by the Rope. I was raped in 1968 when I was 11 years old, I have been down in this well of silence and shame, treading water for a very long time, and I am dead tired and weak. But they seem to know what they are doing, if they pull fast, I will slip and fall back into the water, so they are pulling slow, but sure. I am still in the well, but I am out of the water now. All I have to do is hang on to the rope.
I hope my little story has helped you to understand how much malesurvivor.org has helped me.

Thank you
Lostcowboy

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"Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow. Don't walk behind me, I may not lead. Just walk beside me and be my friend." - Albert Camus
Pretty much my life as I have posted so far. Triggers!

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#37884 - 01/29/06 04:09 PM Re: MaleSurvivor Funding
Josh1 Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 01/02/06
Posts: 39
Loc: New York
The most precious part of me my abuser took was my voice. I have been searching for my voice for so many years. While I have begun finding my voice with family and friends, MaleSurvivor has allowed me to find a part of my voice that for so long I assumed could not exist. The voice to say that I did not just go through a series of complicated experiences, the voice to proclaim that what was going on was more than unconventional. It was abuse. I was a victim of psycho-sexual abuse before I even had the vocabulary to understand what it means to lie and deceive. Among brothers on Male Survivor, I have found the voice to say that I am a Male Survivor and am proud of who I am.


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#191864 - 11/19/07 02:54 AM Re: MaleSurvivor Funding [Re: Josh1]
lostcowboy Offline
Member

Registered: 11/10/04
Posts: 797
Loc: North Texas
Just popping this up, so the new people can read what we think about MS.org.

Also I was wondering about the funding. Did we get it?

Take care,
Clifford

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"Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow. Don't walk behind me, I may not lead. Just walk beside me and be my friend." - Albert Camus
Pretty much my life as I have posted so far. Triggers!

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