This truly sucks. Regardless of what label we put on any of it...I think he WAY over-stepped boundaries and abandoned "good practice" by the off-the-cuff challenge of "I dare you." THAT was heinous!
One place I get pissed-off if people "go there," is when I'm blaming myself for certain things and they ask "what if it were your son...would you be blaming him right now?" I think that's a cheap stab with a cheap knife in an area of my heart that NO PERSON has any right to touch!
And Mark...I feel like you got stabbed similarly!
We all had to SURVIVE by different and unique means. Only God truly knows what we went through.