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#378564 - 12/07/11 12:12 PM Re: why [Re: JaapVisser]
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Point being he stopped our relationship - what right does he have to email me?

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#378566 - 12/07/11 12:44 PM Re: why [Re: JaapVisser]
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Oh Man...

This truly sucks. Regardless of what label we put on any of it...I think he WAY over-stepped boundaries and abandoned "good practice" by the off-the-cuff challenge of "I dare you." THAT was heinous!

One place I get pissed-off if people "go there," is when I'm blaming myself for certain things and they ask "what if it were your son...would you be blaming him right now?" I think that's a cheap stab with a cheap knife in an area of my heart that NO PERSON has any right to touch!

And Mark...I feel like you got stabbed similarly!

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#378567 - 12/07/11 12:49 PM Re: why [Re: Still]
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Robbie - I agree. If my T had EVER asked the "what if it were your son" question I would have had to sit on my hands. Wow. Just thinking about it raises my blood pressure!

Stabbed is a good word. Though in my response to his email I said I felt mentally raped.


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#378574 - 12/07/11 02:02 PM Re: why [Re: MarkK]
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And ain't it a pisser when a T demands that you "promise" you will or won't do something? When does the client get HIS guarantee?

John


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#378596 - 12/07/11 04:49 PM Re: why [Re: unhappycamper]
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When a T says upfront "You will hate me before we're done"
............


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#378597 - 12/07/11 04:51 PM Re: why [Re: MarkK]
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If a therapist ever said that to me, I'd fire him on the spot.

That's no way to build trust with a client. Guy should lose his license.

D

Originally Posted By: MarkK
When a T says upfront "You will hate me before we're done"
............


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#378718 - 12/08/11 03:15 PM Re: why [Re: Magellan]
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I appreciate all the support - it's nice to know I'm not totally crazy with how I responded!

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#379147 - 12/12/11 03:35 PM Re: why [Re: JaapVisser]
MarkK Offline
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absolutely flippin amazing.
he wrote back
AGAIN

i'm trying to figure out how i can be so dense that i can't get someone to understand that STOP means STOP.

absolutely flippin amazing

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#379185 - 12/12/11 09:50 PM Re: why [Re: MarkK]
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An amazing lack of boundaries on his part.

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#379248 - 12/13/11 10:49 AM Re: why [Re: FormerTexan]
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lack of boundaries ....
yesah - I guess that's one way to look at it. Maybe even the "best" way. I mean - he's a T, right? No way he could have been out to cause hurt or harm. He just overstepped his boundaries. But I'm sure I drove him to it... it was surely my fault in the first place.


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