Point being he stopped our relationship - what right does he have to email me?

Oh Man...

This truly sucks. Regardless of what label we put on any of it...I think he WAY over-stepped boundaries and abandoned "good practice" by the off-the-cuff challenge of "I dare you." THAT was heinous!

One place I get pissed-off if people "go there," is when I'm blaming myself for certain things and they ask "what if it were your son...would you be blaming him right now?" I think that's a cheap stab with a cheap knife in an area of my heart that NO PERSON has any right to touch!

And Mark...I feel like you got stabbed similarly!

Robbie - I agree. If my T had EVER asked the "what if it were your son" question I would have had to sit on my hands. Wow. Just thinking about it raises my blood pressure!

Stabbed is a good word. Though in my response to his email I said I felt mentally raped.

And ain't it a pisser when a T demands that you "promise" you will or won't do something? When does the client get HIS guarantee?

John

When a T says upfront "You will hate me before we're done"
............

If a therapist ever said that to me, I'd fire him on the spot.

That's no way to build trust with a client. Guy should lose his license.

D

I appreciate all the support - it's nice to know I'm not totally crazy with how I responded!

absolutely flippin amazing.
he wrote back
AGAIN

i'm trying to figure out how i can be so dense that i can't get someone to understand that STOP means STOP.

absolutely flippin amazing

An amazing lack of boundaries on his part.

lack of boundaries ....
yesah - I guess that's one way to look at it. Maybe even the "best" way. I mean - he's a T, right? No way he could have been out to cause hurt or harm. He just overstepped his boundaries. But I'm sure I drove him to it... it was surely my fault in the first place.