Right now my biggest worry, based on my own experience with PTSD, is triggering. When I started to read PTSD resources I could only do a few pages at a time. It was so hard. I'm worried about him getting hit with too much too soon, but he does want a book. He immediately asked me if I would get him one.
I'm also worried about him feeling ill. He didn't tell me he was ill every day those 3 days, but I could tell he was. And I understand this. I tend to experience emotion in my body. In a lot of ways I was socialized more like the stereotypical masculine construct of how to behave so I really get what he is going through. For instance, he told me he "thinks" his feelings instead of feeling them. Oh my gosh. Yes. I did and still do that to an extent. My first therapist spent months even getting me to cry or say the word "I feel". I told hubby that too when we talked. I don't want to overstep and compare myself too much to him though, so I also told him we all response to things differently, but there are commonalities. And honestly, I know how incredibly hard it is to go through the healing process. I almost broke my hand punching a wall when I was a 19 year old! Of course, being female and very feminine looking once I could deal with emotions people encouraged me to and accepted it, so I think that'll be different for him and more challenging.
I sent him in an e-mail some tips for starting the healing process that I got from another site and when we get paid I'll get him that book. From reviews I read it seems really great.
Hopefully he'll also find an online support group, use this forum, etc.