Sigh. I made my peace with the Survivor who "brought me here" and although we never managed an intimate relationship, we are sweet and good loving friends to each other and we can depend on each other.
I have been involved with someone else recently on & off and due to one symptom or another, began to suspect that he has Borderline Personality Disorder....
I also found out from a mutual friend that he had been emotionally abused by his mother, who he ADORES even though she is no longer here on planet earth.
Just recently, we began to get more physically entanged and to make a long story short, he now INSISTS that he doesn't want an amorous relationship with me. He has had this rant before, but it only happens after I have failed in some way to return a phone call. You can almost predict when the rant is going to hit.
I hate to think of it, but am beginning to suspect he is a Survivor. He has been soooo obnoxious to me that I can't see myself going back for more punishment. But I still care for him. I am considering trying to talk with him about this, but we are soooo angry at each other that I can't see how we will ever learn to trust.
Anyone else with experience with BPD?
Thanks so much!
If I am not for myself, who will be for me? If I am only for myself, what am I? If not now... when? --Hillel