that doesn't mean i let him off the hook... it just means that i'm doing what i can to remove every aspect of him from my life...
IMHO, letting the perp(s) off the hook is impossible, and "removing every aspect" of what they did would be an enormous task at best.
I guess for me, "forgiveness" (and I REALLY think we need a different word for this) means no longer blaming myself for living a "half-life" in the shadow of all these CSA after-effects. Once the extreme PTSD symptoms began, I immediately could tell that they are just amplified versions of things that have plagued me as long as I can remember. Maybe these problems aren't entirely products of CSA--maybe some are, or are increased by, innate tendencies--but either way, there's no reason to blame myself for their presence. Removing that one "aspect" of What The Perp Did is a big enough task for me. I've struggled with treatments, therapy and distractions for 17+ years, and I haven't succeeded yet! Peace.