It is in childhood/adolsence, which is at the very period of our lives when we suffered abuse, that we should be learning about life. We should be learning to reason, learn about control (both good and bad), learn about love, learn about talking to others even in a social setting, how to talk to the other sex about different subjects as we grow into our late teens and early adulthood, including love which is an extension of marriage.
If your husband is unhappy with his therapist, he definately should get another who is well trained and experienced in Male CSA survivors and their SO's.
Because we never learned our social skills when we should have, as others have said, we have to learn it as adults. Unfortunately, people with SO's have to put up with us as we try to learn what we should have learned years ago. We were victims then and now survivors now. It is up to us to clean up the garbage that we had no part in receiving, the same as you have to clean up litter on your property which you had no part in getting on your lawn.
Good luck with everything. Keep encouraging your husband but don't push him. Unfortunately, we have no timeline for recovery. Each one of us is different.
I will mourn the teenager I never was and strive to make that dot of light way out in the far reaches of the end of the tunnel turn into a bright sun.
WE ARE NOT VICTIMS. WE ARE THE SURVIVORS!!!