Well if control is a big issue, then a book might work. He can take control over it, take his own steps in getting into it.
Talk with him and see in what stage he is. I had problems in the beginning with reading Victims no longer since it was quite confronting. I did it step by step. If you find out that he is maybe willing to read, but more in a "taking distance" mode then the book by Richard Gartner (Beyond Betrayal, taking charge of your life after boyhood sexual abuse) is a great start. This book was personally for me an eye opener. It is written very well and very clear and doesn't sit on your skin (hope you know what I mean :D) as Victims no Longer can do.
Also I could recommend for you to read the book from Cecil Murphy: When a Man You Love Was Abused: A Woman's Guide to Helping Him Overcome Childhood Sexual Molestation.
It can help in understanding his behaviour, his fears etc. My girlfriend read it and it was a great eye opener for her. I also read it and also for me it offered some great insights.
I have to say this book comes with some spirituality, but it's very little. You can read it very well if you are not religious (like I am, dunno if you are, but don't let it scare you).
Both books are found in the bookstore btw (http://www.malesurvivor.org/bookstore.html