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#377109 - 11/28/11 10:33 AM Re: Intimacy Anorexia [Re: Esposa]
Sobernow Offline


Registered: 05/17/10
Posts: 256
Loc: Oklahoma
Another thing:

Being a victim of sexual abuse is one of the 3 major risk factors for having intimacy anorexia.


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#377112 - 11/28/11 11:15 AM Re: Intimacy Anorexia [Re: Sobernow]
lucylives Offline


Registered: 04/07/11
Posts: 367
Did you recover from it, Sober? Silly question, when I look at your name.

Did you to the 3 dailies with your wife? Did it help?


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#377116 - 11/28/11 11:41 AM Re: Intimacy Anorexia [Re: lucylives]
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Registered: 08/31/11
Posts: 57
Loc: The Netherlands
Thanks Lucy for the info.

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#377117 - 11/28/11 11:52 AM Re: Intimacy Anorexia [Re: Sobernow]
Esposa Offline
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Registered: 10/19/11
Posts: 728
Loc: NJ
OMG. I read the book - in one day. AND HOLY CRAP - is this my husband. It was impossible for me to understand until I read the book and put it all in context.

Question though - he was not like this until he perceived that I had betrayed him. The book doesn't really address this possibility. Is it possible for someone to acquire this anorexia once they feel unsafe in a relationship?


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#377122 - 11/28/11 12:35 PM Re: Intimacy Anorexia [Re: Esposa]
lucylives Offline


Registered: 04/07/11
Posts: 367
Esposa, I would bet it was there before the "perceived betrayal" now hhe just has an excuse.

Check your pm....


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#377123 - 11/28/11 12:47 PM Re: Intimacy Anorexia [Re: Esposa]
Sobernow Offline


Registered: 05/17/10
Posts: 256
Loc: Oklahoma
Call Dr. Doug's office and ask the question. They will give you an answer. He also has a partner named Cory who might talk with you. Tell them a guy from Oklahoma told you to call.


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#377124 - 11/28/11 12:50 PM Re: Intimacy Anorexia [Re: lucylives]
Sobernow Offline


Registered: 05/17/10
Posts: 256
Loc: Oklahoma
Me and my wife have been doing the 3 dailies for about 6 months. We are on track to do them EVERY day for about 10 weeks now. (I have consequences if I fail to do them)

You have to do the work to get recovery.

I went thru 12 steps for SA ---- then identified CSA as an issue ---- then identified IA as a problem.

I am also in a weekly phone counseling group for men -- sponsored by a counselor who shares an office with Doug Weiss (Cory)


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#377125 - 11/28/11 12:52 PM Re: Intimacy Anorexia [Re: Sobernow]
Sobernow Offline


Registered: 05/17/10
Posts: 256
Loc: Oklahoma
The counselors name is Cory Schortzman (Colorado Springs)

He is in the same office complex as Doug Weiss.


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#377126 - 11/28/11 12:57 PM Re: Intimacy Anorexia [Re: Sobernow]
lucylives Offline


Registered: 04/07/11
Posts: 367
I saw Cory on strange sex before any of this came out. very interesting stuff


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