...it is a reflection of THEM, not of you ...
That's a tough one. I take everything personally and feel responsible for things out of my control. But realistically, I look at the exlusion of my kids and me as unique (compared to the treatment of others). So if its uniqueness that's the factor of exlusion, I must ask "why?" Then I conclude, "cuz of something I am or represent or have become...etc.
You'd think they'd realize that following an 18 year marriage, now living alone, being broke, being diagnosed with PTSD and Severe depression, they might invite the kids and I to something??? Call my son on his birthday maybe. Maybe something like they use to do when I acted like a normal???
Seriously people: Disclosure is not for amatures. Its the one area of Mike Lew's book I truly have issues with.