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#376778 - 11/25/11 01:50 PM Intimacy Anorexia
Esposa Offline
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Registered: 10/19/11
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Can someone have intimacy anorexia but still have sex?


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#376791 - 11/25/11 05:29 PM Re: Intimacy Anorexia [Re: Esposa]
Ken Singer, LCSW Offline
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People do this all the time. Perhaps it is more difficult for women to have sex without intimacy but men are generally familiar with the concept that "a stiff c*ck has no conscience."

As I say frequenntly to my clients regarding intimacy (the caring and sharing with another person), "you can have intimacy without sex, sex without intimacy, but it's best when you have sex with intimacy."


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#376800 - 11/25/11 06:46 PM Re: Intimacy Anorexia [Re: Esposa]
lucylives Offline


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Have u read the book?


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#376802 - 11/25/11 06:47 PM Re: Intimacy Anorexia [Re: Ken Singer, LCSW]
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Intimacy anorexia is what sex addiction is all about. They get to pretend they are intimate without the risk of real intimacy. It is false intimacy. Just my opiniion.
Get the book, it is awesome. A real eye opener


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#376805 - 11/25/11 07:32 PM Re: Intimacy Anorexia [Re: lucylives]
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I will order it right now.

Thanks Ken for your response too. Is intimacy a common struggle for survivors? Now that I think about it, I think I struggled with intimacy my whole life as well.


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#376855 - 11/26/11 09:05 AM Re: Intimacy Anorexia [Re: Esposa]
ksequoia Offline
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Looking forward to working on that with my new T. I just cannot be intimate. Never could be. Trust issues, even with the one I love the most. How sad is that? Both both of us! 17 years in and still love each other. It can be so much better. I can get better. I must keep that attitude about the possibility of wellness. I hope one day I can experience real intimacy, as Mr. Singer describes it. That would be so wonderful!

K.-


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#377090 - 11/28/11 05:56 AM Re: Intimacy Anorexia [Re: ksequoia]
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Can I ask what book you are reffering to Lucy? Not to hijack the topic, but having some really big intimacy issues myself and been reading a lot of books. I remember I saw it somewhere, but can't find it.

Thanks you!

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#377099 - 11/28/11 08:42 AM Re: Intimacy Anorexia [Re: JaapVisser]
lucylives Offline


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Douglass Weiss, Intimacy Anorexia, you can buy the ebook and read iton your computer. I wish I would have bought the hrd copy but couldn't wait. it really is an eye opener. Next to Patrick Carnes, I think he has written the most on sex addiction with Intimacy Anorexia just being another addiction and a way people keep people at a distance due to some pain in their past.


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#377106 - 11/28/11 10:30 AM Re: Intimacy Anorexia [Re: Esposa]
Sobernow Offline


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Check out information by Doug Weiss PhD -- he is in Colorado Springs, CO Has lots of info on Intimacy Anorexia.

The short answer -- YES -- you can be intimacy anorexic and have LOTS of sex. I am recovering anorexic and sex addict.

Look up Doug -- it will help you tons.


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#377108 - 11/28/11 10:32 AM Re: Intimacy Anorexia [Re: Esposa]
Sobernow Offline


Registered: 05/17/10
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Loc: Oklahoma
Oh yeah on Doug Weiss website -- you can do a free Intimacy Anorexia self test.


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