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#380486 - 12/23/11 08:39 AM Re: Day Twenty [Re: whome]
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Martin you are starting to crank up the degree of difficulty. My high school soccer coach said that is the sign of a great coach. Keep up the great work Mike


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#380525 - 12/23/11 04:01 PM Re: Day Twenty [Re: whome]
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whome this is so cool thank you for all of this


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#380559 - 12/24/11 02:15 AM Day Tewenty one [Re: whome]
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LOVE IS SATISFIED IN GOD

Step 20 is vitally important in this process. This is where you realize that there is NOTHING that You can do to repair the damage that sin causes in a relationship.
So when we start realizing that we are meerly human, and that your partner will let you down, then you know that you can always turn to God. If your husband is late, God is always on time, and If your wife has forgotten to get you something, God will always supply your needs, "according to his riches and glory"
So If you Approach God in Utter Dependence each Day, then you will discover how he will supply and fulfil your needs. "Be anxious for nothing, but in everything, through prayer and supplication with thanksgiving, let your requests be made unto God, and the Peace of God that surpasses all understanding, will Guard your hearts and your minds, through Christ Jesus"
You need to ask God to supply your daily needs, and he will deliver "Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will Grant you the Desires of your heart"

TODAY'S CHALLENGE

Be intentional today, about making a specific time to pray, and read the Bible, try reading a chapter out of the book of proverbs, (one per day) and immerse your self in the Promises and love Of God.

Stay the course.
Martin

I don't know about you Guys, but this is really opening my eyes and I hope that it is doing the same for you. My Marriage is still rocky But not as stained, but I am the first to admit that I am the broken one and that I need to be fixed.
It is also hard for me because I have rebelled against my faith, and to write these>
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#380800 - 12/27/11 02:25 AM Day twent y two [Re: whome]
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LOVE IS FAITHFUL

Love is the basis of our faith, When Christ was asked what the greatest commandment of all was, He replied. "You shall love the lord your God with all your heart, soul strength and mind, and that you should love your neighbour as yourself"
There is the Story of Hosea, a faithful man whom God instructed to marry a prostitute. He honoured God and did so, and the couple had three children, after a while Hosea's wife began to stray and be unfaithful, but each time God instructed him to forgive her.
Eventually She went of and was unfaithful to him and Hosea suffered the embarrassment of having to buy her back of the slave blocks. He did this.
You see God never stops loving us and even though we are less than perfect and turn our backs on him (I know I have, a lot) He never turns his back on us and never stops loving us.
So if we have hurt our partners to such an extent, we are honour bound to love them more.

TODAY'S CHALLENGE

Love is a Choice, so today Choose to love your partner, even though she has stopped receiving your love.
Say to her in words similar to these. "I love you, Period, I choose to love you, even if you don't love me in return."

Stay the Course

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#381389 - 01/04/12 02:33 AM Day twenty three [Re: whome]
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HI All and welcome back.
I wish you all a great 2012 and hope that this programme is doing something for you.
For me things are really rough, but it is important to not give up. Go back and redo a couple of steps, but NEVER GIVE UP. This is a hard lesson for me, but I keep in mind that the best things are worth fighting for, and God is always faithful.


LOVE ALWAYS PROTECTS

Marriage is not always what we fantasized about, it is hard and takes a lot of work. But it is worth fighting for. There are some battles that we don't not want to wage, but there are others that are worth it.
Not everyone or everything has your best interests at heart, and many things are out there to trip us up and make us stumble. There are temptations out there that want to lure you away from your marriage, things that look so nice, but they want to destroy your relationships. You Must Fight these, and win, you need to fight to protect your marriage.

Harmful influences
Are you allowing certain habits to poison your home, Television, the internet, unhealthy work schedules. These factors take away from healthy time spent with your family. Spending 4 hours a night staring at a television, is not family time.

Unhealthy relationships
Do you have "friends" that offer you relationship advice that encourages you to, go to the game, go fishing, go to the pub. Do you have opposite sex friends at work or the gym. You see not all friends have YOUR BEST INTEREST at heart. These friendships need to be "pruned"

Shame
Marriage has a way of bringing out the faults of our partners, we know there secrets and their shame. A spouse will never talk badly about their partner in public, we will protect their "Shame"

Parasites
Parasites will latch onto you or your partner and suck the life out of you, Addictions like Gambling, Porn, Alcohol, these things promise pleasure and grow and fester and cause immense harm.

TODAY'S CHALLENGE


Remove anything that is Hindering your relationship, any addiction or influence that is stealing your affections and turning your heart away from your spouse.

Stay the course

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#382201 - 01/12/12 02:40 PM DAY TWENTY FOUR [Re: whome]
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LOVE VS LUST

In today's society lust is forced on us all the time, and there is a saying that where ever your mind fixates that is where your heart lies. So today, we all want that nice car, the latest flat screen TV, that nice fishing boat, a bigger better house, and yeah sometimes the hot blonde that lives down the road.
One cannot love ones partner and still lust after things, your attention will always be divided.

TODAY'S CHALLENGE

Identify all those things that you lust after in life and write them down, write down all those lies that you have told in the pursuit of the forbidden pleasure. Then start to remove all these things from your life.

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#382204 - 01/12/12 02:46 PM Re: DAY TWENTY FOUR [Re: whome]
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Registered: 01/09/12
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I just finished this book because my ex asked me to. I'm so glad she did. I hope we can work on things. I read the whole book in 2 days


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#382209 - 01/12/12 03:14 PM Re: DAY TWENTY FOUR [Re: mcl1982]
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Good for you man and I hope it works for you

I recommend to all that work this to get the book as I cant rewrite all that is in it, so there is a little poetic licence in there.

I hope that it works out for you and the X

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#382213 - 01/12/12 03:54 PM Re: DAY TWENTY FOUR [Re: whome]
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Registered: 01/09/12
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Me too. She's hurt and doesn't want to talk right now. I told her my problems after we split and hoped she'd understand. But I also can say this book opened my eyes and my heart in ways I never imagined. I cried every page I read and there wasn't one thing that didn't hit home for me.


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#382356 - 01/14/12 04:21 AM DAY TWENTY FIVE [Re: whome]
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LOVE FORGIVES

(Damn) this after what has happened in the last weeks.
This is the hardest dare, and in light of what happened to the wife, it is going to be tough. But hey, personally I have never tackled anything half heartedly.

Consider being locked in a prison, and in the other cells you see the people that have hurt you in your life, the perpetrators that caused so much pain, the bullies that hurt you, men that did you in at work. There in all these cells are the pains and hurts of your past. Jesus is standing there, and in his hand he has a key that will release you from this prison, the Key is FORGIVENESS, all you have to do is use the key and you will be free.
You see this prison exists in your heart, and if you don't forgive, then you carry this hatred and darkness around with you all the time. Bitterness is a poison pill you swallow to make the other person disappear.
God says "Vengeance is mine" so it is not my place to seek revenge (something that I have wanted a lot over the last week)
How do we know that we have forgiven the hated one, well if we hear his name or see his face, we no longer feel our blood boil, but rather feel pity for him.

TODAY'S CHALLENGE

Whatever you have not forgiven your partner for to date you must forgive them for today, let it go. As we pray each day we ask God to forgive us our debts,(Trespasses) but we also have to ask God to help us forgive our Debtors.
Un-forgiveness has kept you and your partner in "prison" to long.
Today you must say "I choose to forgive them for all, from my heart"

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