My husband and I were talking about the uselessness of comparing trauma. Abuse is abuse. He said it is kind of like what they do in war torn countries like Sierra Leone. The armed militia hack limbs off with machetes. Often, before they strike, they ask the person, "do you want long sleeves or short sleeves" to determine whether they will chop at the wrist or above the elbow. As you can imagine, it probably matters very little where the machete strikes.
Everyone who comes to this board is traumatized in some way because of CSA.
Long sleeves, or short sleeves?
Wife of a survivor