When my amnesia cleared and I entered a healing stage of life, I shared the information about my abuse with my wife. She had never been abused and she didn't study psychology in school so she didn't have the resources to deal with what I told her.
We started reading books together about hurting children. This allowed her to see how children who have been abused might respond.
There are a bunch of books written by Torey Hayden. They are all excellent. She is one of those people who have a gift of understanding and helping hurting children. The books show her special compassion and writing skill. One of them is: Beautiful Child
You can get used copies from Amazon for 1 penny plus postage.
She also wrote: Tiger's Child
, Murphy's Boy
, Somebody Else's Kids
, and others.
Reading these together will affirm your relationship and give insight as to how to deal with abused kids.