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#373452 - 10/26/11 09:20 PM Boundaries....
Esposa Offline
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Registered: 10/19/11
Posts: 707
Loc: NJ
Today I am thankful for our couples therapist - how smart, sensitive and really in tune he is. His skill is really quite remarkable. And, the best part is, that my husband really likes him and feels challenged but comfortable.

I took a couple for the team today for sure. The topic? Boundaries. I know this is a crucial piece for self esteem - I have worked on it in my therapy. But then, my boundaries have never been violated the way my husband's have.

For now, while he has still not called a new therapist, I am putting some hope in our therapist. I sit sort of on the outskirts of the conversation, being used as an example of how my husband can learn to simultaneously protect his boundaries and still relate emotionally to his wife. I am not going to lie, sometimes it is hard - but we are in this together, right?


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#373531 - 10/27/11 03:58 PM Re: Boundaries.... [Re: Esposa]
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Registered: 07/28/10
Posts: 476
Your boundaries have still been violated. Be careful about downplaying your feelings because you aren't the survivor. You are in it together, but don't forget about yourself.


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#373536 - 10/27/11 04:12 PM Re: Boundaries.... [Re: hopeandtry]
Esposa Offline
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Registered: 10/19/11
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I had a ME moment today when I tried to communicate with him and he shut down and I was like, hey dude, this is my life too remember?


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#373538 - 10/27/11 04:13 PM Re: Boundaries.... [Re: Esposa]
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Registered: 07/28/10
Posts: 476
lol...this made me laugh. Yeah, when I tried to communicate, that often didn't work so well.


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