It is necessary to meditate on the abuse during our survival. It is going to happen regardless of our wishes. It is our burden.
May I grieve with you, fellow survivor. May I sit with you and hold your feelings as I too, have had been supported in my despair, may I? Together we can mourn our losses, grimace under the controls that confine us, and then, when you and I are ready, we will get up, we will feel better, we will prepare ourselves, we will prevail.
But not right now. Now we sit, we sigh, we suffer, but just for awhile.