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#36886 - 06/05/06 02:33 PM New here
Trevor Offline
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Registered: 06/05/06
Posts: 778
Loc: Rhode Island
Hi everyone, i'm new, hoping to talk soon.
trevor

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My lamb and martyr, this will be over soon. You look so precious.

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#36887 - 06/05/06 02:59 PM Re: New here
Curtis St. John Offline
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Registered: 01/20/04
Posts: 1796
Loc: Westchester, N.Y.
Hi Trevor,

Take your time, look around, and make yourself at home.

Hope we can help.

Welcome aboard.


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#36888 - 06/05/06 03:06 PM Re: New here
Muldoon Offline
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Registered: 05/30/02
Posts: 1428
Loc: St Paul MN
No Rush to talk here. Lots of great reading and healing guys here that can help on your healing journay.

No Rush to tell your story all at once also. Read all the post and one will make you want to write. Tom

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Teach the Children to Never Hide in the Silence

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#36889 - 06/05/06 03:13 PM Re: New here
Trevor Offline
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Registered: 06/05/06
Posts: 778
Loc: Rhode Island
hi curtis, hi tom, thanks for replying, its cool to talk to ppl here and not face to face! whenever i go to therapy i just pull my hat down like almost over my eyes so i can't see her looking at me lol
ya i read some things here and made some replys but i think i sound pretty stupid compared to some of the stuff i'm reading here. oh well, so long as i get a point across i guess it doesnt matter how i say it, does it? lol plus as long as i feel stupid im in one of my comfort zones (thats what my therapist says sometimes)
thanks again its nice to meet u both

trevor

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My lamb and martyr, this will be over soon. You look so precious.

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#36890 - 06/05/06 05:04 PM Re: New here
Elad 12 Offline
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Registered: 02/15/05
Posts: 1176
Loc: on the coast
Welcome Trevor. You don't sound stupid. One thing I've learned is I can pretty much say whatever I want here and somebody will understand.

Dale


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#36891 - 06/05/06 06:08 PM Re: New here
Trevor Offline
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Registered: 06/05/06
Posts: 778
Loc: Rhode Island
ya dale so far it seems that way. thanks for
saying i dont sound stupid
trevor

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My lamb and martyr, this will be over soon. You look so precious.

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#36892 - 06/05/06 08:42 PM Re: New here
Bill_h_pike Offline
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Registered: 05/26/05
Posts: 67
Loc: USA
Welcome.
If you ever need the vent the people here are happy to hear you out. Sometimes its easier when it's not face to face.


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#36893 - 06/06/06 12:02 AM Re: New here
John Oarc Offline
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Registered: 02/10/06
Posts: 633
Loc: Louisiana
Welcome Trevor, don't hold back, I don't think there is a stupid question or response ever. What you feel is unique to you and in most cases many share your feelings.

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Whatever It Takes, God


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#36894 - 06/06/06 12:50 AM Re: New here
WalkingSouth Offline
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Registered: 08/30/05
Posts: 16265
Trevor,

Welcome! I don't think you sound stupid at all, but I know what you are saying about it being your comfort zone. I always felt that way. Felt like I could never do anything right. I've learned that isn't true, and I have a hunch if you stick around with us and with your therapist, you may discover the same thing.

Every person is valuable and has so much good stuff to contribute to society. That includes you and me, My Friend.

Stick around and get comfortable here, K?

John

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“Life’s journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting ‘Holy ____…! What a ride!’” ~Hunter S. Thompson

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#36895 - 06/06/06 01:18 AM Re: New here
jesse7 Offline
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Registered: 04/26/06
Posts: 105
Loc: AZ
Trevor,

I'm glad you found this site. I don't think you're stupid either. You had some very negative things thrown your way and now you want to get rid of them. That's pretty smart if you ask me. Please don't be ashamed to write about your feelings even if they make no sense at all. The effects of CSA can be very difficult to see.

I wish you the best and remember that you are not alone.

Jesse

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What lies before us and what lies behind us is nothing compared to what lies within us

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#36896 - 06/06/06 01:46 AM Re: New here
Hauser Offline
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Registered: 11/12/05
Posts: 2962
Loc: United States
Welcome aboard Trevor, if you're looking for answers, you can find at least some of them here. The experience of recovery from the older members here is routinely passed down from one person to the next. We're all here to help eachother.


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#36897 - 06/06/06 01:33 PM Re: New here
Trevor Offline
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Registered: 06/05/06
Posts: 778
Loc: Rhode Island
thanks everyone, this is really nice
kind of making me paranoid, but nice
trevor

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My lamb and martyr, this will be over soon. You look so precious.

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#36898 - 06/06/06 01:47 PM Re: New here
WalkingSouth Offline
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Posts: 16265
Trevor,

Why paranoid? Not trying to push here. Just wondering.

John

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“Life’s journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting ‘Holy ____…! What a ride!’” ~Hunter S. Thompson

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#36899 - 06/06/06 01:54 PM Re: New here
Trevor Offline
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Registered: 06/05/06
Posts: 778
Loc: Rhode Island
cuz i never talk about it and i dont
really know who im talking to on here, for
all i know you or anyone here could
be one of my stepbro's friends just
trying to F with me u know?
and im just paranoid anyways, i dont trust
anybody, always looking over my shoulder
it sucks

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My lamb and martyr, this will be over soon. You look so precious.

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#36900 - 06/06/06 02:06 PM Re: New here
Derdlecar Offline
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Registered: 11/08/05
Posts: 1314
Loc: Ogden Utah, USA
Trevor,

Welcome.

I know that feeling of paranoia you speak of. I used to try to figure out who on this board was a fake. It gets better in time, I can't think of anybody here that even comes close to making me think that they are some perp trying to continue the abuse here.

Hang in there friend, you are worth it.

Darrel

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If a man would get his life on track, he must first go back to the place where it was derailed.

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#36901 - 06/06/06 02:13 PM Re: New here
Trevor Offline
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Registered: 06/05/06
Posts: 778
Loc: Rhode Island
thanks darrel

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#36902 - 06/07/06 02:31 AM Re: New here
roadrunner Offline
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Registered: 05/02/05
Posts: 22045
Loc: Carlisle, PA
Trev,

Quote:
as long as i feel stupid im in one of my comfort zones
Can I take that as a joke? ;\) Seriously, no one here will think you are stupid; you will be understood and respected here.

I can well understand you would have trust problems coming to Male Survivor. That's okay. Just respect your feelings of caution and get to know people. We all know that trust has to be earned.

Much love,
Larry

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Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
(Woody Guthrie)

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#36903 - 06/07/06 12:43 PM Re: New here
Trevor Offline
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Registered: 06/05/06
Posts: 778
Loc: Rhode Island
yeah sure you can take it as a joke, i did when my dumbass therapist said it!
thanks larry

trev

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My lamb and martyr, this will be over soon. You look so precious.

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#36904 - 06/07/06 06:29 PM Re: New here
roadrunner Offline
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Registered: 05/02/05
Posts: 22045
Loc: Carlisle, PA
Oops. Sorry if I jerked your chain bro. It does seem an odd thing to say to a client!

Much love,
Larry

_________________________
Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
(Woody Guthrie)

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#36905 - 06/07/06 07:40 PM Re: New here
Trevor Offline
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Registered: 06/05/06
Posts: 778
Loc: Rhode Island
nah it was cuz she was asking me something that i knew the answer too but i just kept saying "i dunno, i dunno, i dunno" so she said something like ah i see ur in a comfort zone... or some shit like that...

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My lamb and martyr, this will be over soon. You look so precious.

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#36906 - 06/07/06 07:47 PM Re: New here
roadrunner Offline
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Registered: 05/02/05
Posts: 22045
Loc: Carlisle, PA
Aha. Well, she was probably right. She could probably see that she was pushing too hard. You were resisting by saying "I dunno".

As any father knows, my friend, that famous phrase is teen code for "I don't want to go there". ;\) That's perfectly okay, though, and I'm glad you made it known where your limits were that day. Therapy is about keeping you safe and away from new pain and trauma as much as possible.

Much love,
Larry

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Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
(Woody Guthrie)

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#36907 - 06/07/06 09:31 PM Re: New here
Trevor Offline
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Registered: 06/05/06
Posts: 778
Loc: Rhode Island
lol i was just trying to be a pain in
the ass to her, trying to piss her off
but it didnt work \:\)

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My lamb and martyr, this will be over soon. You look so precious.

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#36908 - 06/07/06 10:25 PM Re: New here
roadrunner Offline
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Registered: 05/02/05
Posts: 22045
Loc: Carlisle, PA
Trev,

Sounds like she's a good T!!!

Much love,
Larry

_________________________
Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
(Woody Guthrie)

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#36909 - 06/08/06 06:04 AM Re: New here
WalkingSouth Offline
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Registered: 08/30/05
Posts: 16265
Trev,

There's another possibility. Maybe you did piss her of and she's just really good at hiding it? Nah! I agree with Larry, she sounds like she is a good T!!!

Lots of love,

John

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“Life’s journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting ‘Holy ____…! What a ride!’” ~Hunter S. Thompson

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#36910 - 06/09/06 01:29 PM Re: New here
Trevor Offline
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Registered: 06/05/06
Posts: 778
Loc: Rhode Island
i cant stand her
shes a bitch

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My lamb and martyr, this will be over soon. You look so precious.

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#36911 - 06/09/06 05:38 PM Re: New here
roadrunner Offline
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MaleSurvivor

Registered: 05/02/05
Posts: 22045
Loc: Carlisle, PA
Trev,

I know this is getting to be a heavy day for you, so I will only say this is something to talk about. If you don't get along with your T that means you don't trust her, and without trust I'm not sure how she can help you.

Much love,
Larry

_________________________
Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
(Woody Guthrie)

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