K,
That sounds horrible your sis and her actions to you. Excuse my French but your sis and her thing with your erection is no defense for sexual abuse as I am sure you know. That is our "handicap" abusers can use as a wildcard.

Daniel,

It is important to confront your sister when you feel the time is right. It is important that you do not pressure yourself to confront her too early or you may not get the results you want. I prepared mine like a speech. What do you want to say to her? Be ready for little tactics perps use to get out of the blame or try to minimize the horrible thing that they did to you. Sometimes confrontations for this don't go right the first time and must be repetitive.

Your moving in the right direction, Keep it up.
Jason

Jason,
I decided to email a letter. We see each other on the avg 1 t/year. Dec. is coming soon and I was preparing a face to face. During this time I have been throwing everything possible at my dad trying to get answers. Typically nothing came out. I feel less stressed since I decided to write this letter. It will help things move "forward" in some way or fashion. At the least this outlet no longer requires maximum effort to my father and his wall. Also I really don't know if I had it in me to confront my sister to her face. I think the fact it was incest adds a strange and perverted twist to it all. If it had been someone outside the family (I don't mean to negate anyone out there) things would have a differant challenge.
peace d