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#366968 - 07/30/11 02:27 AM -
exhale Offline

Registered: 08/12/10
Posts: 101

Edited by exhale (01/13/13 11:25 PM)

#366970 - 07/30/11 03:03 AM Re: fuck this [Re: exhale]
Thad Offline
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Registered: 08/28/01
Posts: 1752
Loc: Oakland, CA
there is no way to answer such a painful place except to say I've been there and it passes. Right now the most important thing is to make it through the day.

Take a little step toward healing however small it is.

"..this place isn't a discussion's a portal..." Lupin
"The truth will set you free, but first it will probably piss you off." dwf's AA sponsor.

#366978 - 07/30/11 06:30 AM Re: fuck this [Re: exhale]
well-intended Offline

Registered: 04/15/11
Posts: 124
Loc: Belgium
Actually, that your behavior would have been stupid is not the first thought that pops up in my mind. My first impression is that I'm reading about a young person, who's surrounding himself with people who might be exploiting and manipulating him, and who is driven desperate. My apologies if I'm reading too much into it, but this is my first intuitive thought, not that you're stupid.

#366979 - 07/30/11 06:47 AM Re: fuck this [Re: well-intended]
CheerfulJohn Offline

Registered: 08/22/10
Posts: 149
Loc: England (at the moment)
You were not made as a "basic pleasure model"

I know the feeling......even though I'm 47 and on the "scrap-heap"

We are not that. And I really don't expect or want you to suck mine.


Wolves will live with lambs. Leopards will lie down with goats. Calves, young lions, and year-old lambs will be together, and little children will lead them.

#366981 - 07/30/11 07:06 AM Re: fuck this [Re: CheerfulJohn]
StAiNeD Offline

Registered: 06/27/11
Posts: 17
Loc: The Bronx

Hey. I give a shit. I really really do. Don't give up on yourself cuz I sure as hell haven't given up on you.

Stay strong. Work smart.


"At any given moment you have the power to say this is not how the story is going to end."

#366992 - 07/30/11 12:15 PM Re: fuck this [Re: StAiNeD]
Anthony39 Offline

Registered: 02/15/07
Posts: 345
Loc: Montreal, Canada
Hey Jesper,

A lot of angers in your words. Good. Anger is a genuine emotion. You cannot expect people to behave differently given the situation you put yourself in. You are a strong man, because you come here. Nobody is laughing at you, and if they are tell me which ones, we will have a talk. If you need to vent or to share how you feel , do it. Say what you have to say. I told you that trust and friendship take a long time to develop, it doesn't happen overnight. We all share something in here, something terrible from our pasts. We made choices afterwards based on our needs to survive. You and I made the same choices. Don't expect to find answers with those people. Everyday is a new day Jesper. A new day to look forward. Don't know if i told you but this, but the cage i am/was in is/was very comfortable. If you take an animal in a zoo that's lived all it's life in a small space and you build him a large beautiful natural area to live in. He will still choose to stay in his cage , because it feels safe. Eventually he will habituate himself to the new space but it takes time. I still am comfortable in my cage, but i go out and explore more and more.
You can get all the support, real support, constructive help from guys in here. You have to ask man, no shame in it. Anytime you want to talk as i said before i will listen, always.

Look up and not down; look forward and not back; look out and not in; and lend a hand.
E. E. Hale

#366993 - 07/30/11 12:20 PM Re: fuck this [Re: exhale]
john22 Offline

Registered: 10/16/06
Posts: 202
Loc: Europe-Belgium
Hey Jesper

I'm sorry you have to experience these worst sides of life. But please don't give up. I can relate that whenever things go from bad to worse, it seems we can't get out of the swamp anymore. But we can. You are not alone in this, even if you feel it sometimes, You're not.

I give a lot about you. So it's not stupid to come here to seek some consolation. Don't close this door to you. As in isolation nothing can be gained. By reaching out some help will come along. You're no "fucking pathetic whining whore" as you entitle yourself at this time. You're just Jesper, a cool guy who's going through a very rough time.

Be kind to yourself


"Men are not prisoners of fate, only prisoners of their own mind" - Franklin D. Roosevelt

#366996 - 07/30/11 02:38 PM Re: fuck this [Re: john22]
Mountainous Buck Offline

Registered: 12/15/09
Posts: 1626
Loc: Minnesota
I'm sorry you see yourself that way-and that you can't see how things CAN gt better bit by bit-pits of people here support you and are here for u on his journey- make those detours off the path of healing less frequent and less damaging.

I had to stop having alcohol and non-loving sex in my life, btw.
They caused me more despair and shame and I found help to face life without these false solutions.

We have to take responsibility for what we're not responsible for.

“It doesn't matter where you've come from,
It matters where you go" Frank Turner

#367009 - 07/30/11 06:28 PM Re: fuck this [Re: Mountainous Buck]
WalkingSouth Offline

Registered: 08/30/05
Posts: 16268

I was clicking through some YouTube things a few minutes ago and ran onto a video of Daniel Radcliffe speaking when he was accepting the Trevor Hero award. One line in his speech jumped out at me. It was this:

"Remember that yours is a life worth fighting for and know that when you're going through hell, keep going!"

Now I don't know what Daniel Radcliffe's experiences have been but I know I and most of the other guys here have been where you are at one time or another and in some way. I know that what Daniel said is true. It'll never improve for us if we don't keep going, so just hold on tight!

“Life’s journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting ‘Holy ____…! What a ride!’” ~Hunter S. Thompson

#367038 - 07/31/11 01:00 AM Re: fuck this [Re: WalkingSouth]
Tedure Offline

Registered: 04/17/09
Posts: 203
Loc: Utah
Everybody's comments here have given you nothing but love and respect and some good advise. I hope you can see into their hearts and feel all of our deep concern and love for you. I know it is hard but it WILL get better! Please Take care,


When you change the way you look at things the things you look at change.

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