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Are you asking me what is harmful about the Recovery Movement?
Telling people that they can't seek redress for they ways that they were used, is harmful. Its almost like subjecting a rape victim to another rape.
Telling alcoholics and addicts that have only themselves to blame for the mess they have made of their lives and that they have to pull themselves up by their own boot straps ( with the help of Jesus natch ) and that there are not real pains under the surface which would be extremely hard for any one to face, is harmful.
Telling everyone that they cannot seek redress and have to put their own lives together, following the Self-Reliance Ethic, the same ethic which legitimates the Family System and allows it to use children, is harmful.
Promoting the idea of the Good Family, and making everyone who's experience is different from that feel like they are lepers is harmful. And further, it encourages people to perpetuate it, its pronatalist. This is most harmful.
What would replace these? Holding those who use the Family System accountable. I don't mean child support payments or otherwise imposing a penalty for having a child, for conception, or sex. That is different. I mean holding people responsible for having used a child, having practiced the Family System. In most cases this would only be monetary. But in some it could also be criminal. Some people have no money, but holding those who have money responsible would change our society. Our society looks to those who have money as the example to follow. So for many with socially conservative tendencies, practicing the Family System is the measure of adult success. Problem is that this means using children.
So first thing to do is to block disinheritance. When one has practiced the Family System, they relinquish that option. Second, when there is animosity, only animosity, then there will be other steps taken. Assets might be placed in trust so that they cannot be squandered. The higher the level of animosity, the tighter the trust controls. When it has reached the level of abuse, or if there is need, there can be earlier distribution.
Yes, this only effects people who have money. But it will change how our society thinks and pave the way for a comprehensive social safety net. It is because we still support the Family System that we do not have that safety net today.
It starts when people decide that they are going to stop Recoverying and instead start Fighting Back!
when asked for further specifics about the Family System:
You ask what is harmful about the Family System and what could replace it. Mostly I think its just a matter of shielding one from it, of mitigating it. One has to get beyond the nurturance myth and instead look to its real basis in economic and social power.
What is harmful is that children are being used so that adults can claim that they have successful lives.
Here I've copied forward an old post:http://freedomtoexpress.freeforums.org/symptoms-of-sexual-abuse-from-11-15-10-t61.html
A law firm lists the long term effects of childhood sexual abuse. But what I am saying is that they are exactly those matters which the Family System and our entire society uses to denigrate someone. Its all based on the Self-Reliance Ethic.
So often, when people find that they cannot use a child, that it doesn't work, then they make the child into a scapegoat and they will be such for the rest of their lives. They will always be at risk to those peddling salvation and to the psychiatric system.
For people with an unmitigated conservative temperment, using a child is essential to their claim on adulthood. Then when they are done using that child, the child will likely go on to use other children. Or they may be so seriously harmed that they are preyed upon for the rest of their years.
Prior to the industrial age I'm sure these same tendencies were latent, as its in the Oedipus Myth. But it seems that not until the age of industial capitalism and the full flourishing of the Self-Reliance Ethic that these factors have really come into their play.
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