H4H, I know you know that you and I are in similar situations. I truly feel your pain, but we are not responsible for their healing. I am still freakishly ok with my decision. I feel I took some of my power back. Now is his time to reflect and decide without me, the dog or any distractions in the house as to which direction he wants to go. This cycle went on for too long. I read of relationships of 10+years. He and I have not even hit 5 and I've reached my limit. We are wonderful human beings, H4H...God's children...and deserve to be treated the way God intended for us to be treated. We all deserve happiness. Including our partners, but that is up to them to decide if they are worthy of it or not. I believe myself and my family did all we could to make my bf feel he is worthy and part of this family who love him and do not judge him in any way.
whome, you are better than any therapist I've ever sat with (well all two of them, lol). Not only do you speak so honestly to us partners but you do so with such compassion. Your response to H4H very well applies to my situation as well, and I will certainly reflect on this. Thank you for all of your contributions on here. You and the other survivors are a Godsend!