We survivors have a hard enough time dealing with feeling defensive even when we're not attacked.
Being defensive which was not my reaction or not I am having anxiety about the topic because I have a history is identical to others. Defensive means others are judging.
I am only adding my story.
I apologize if my wording is "offensive/defensive/incorrect or whatever.
NO judgements from me and I hope no one is being judgemental of me.
This it tough STUFF and staying with this might be the key to needed healing.
I wasn't offended by anything you said. As a matter of fact my reply had more to do with the original post and his leaving the support group. The reaction he got was uncalled for and he didn't deserve it.
Not everyone is capable of being compassionate with perps or victim/perps, at least not in the stage of healing they're at in the particular moment. I probably have a little more compassion than I used to, but the anger is always there. I don't see how anyone could conceive of attacking a survivor for feeling that way.
I have no argument with you or anyone else who is a survivor with perp thoughts or tendencies, though to be honest I may have a tough time chatting with someone who has perpetrated. I'm hyper-vigilant about protecting children rather than having the urge to do unto others what was done to me.
I, in turn, hope I have not offended anyone here, including you, DJ. Peace.