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#36463 - 04/11/05 03:09 PM anniversary
wanderer Offline

Registered: 04/18/03
Posts: 50
Loc: massachusetts
hello everyone:

just want to share with you that it's been ten years since i said the words "i was molested when i was a kid" during a conversation with a friend. although i had never forgotten the experiences, i did keep it to myself for 25 years. the moment i shared that with my friend, my life changed forever - for the best, and during some times, the worse. life has shown me during the past ten years that in order to move on, you have to go back. go back and take all that garbage to the curb. turn all that anger into tears. and remember that there's no timetable. it's all part of your journey. one day at a time.

be well, my brothers.

"i'm not crazy i'm just a little unwell" (matchbox 20)

#36464 - 04/11/05 03:39 PM Re: anniversary
Muldoon Offline

Registered: 05/30/02
Posts: 1428
Loc: St Paul MN
Glad to see thst things have changed for you. Having to go back and release the pain is so important.
I have only been working on this for 3 years. Keep my pain inside for 40 years so it has been realy hard todeal with all the issues.

I am thankful to all the men here who have helped me on my journey. Wish we had a better way to reach out to all the boys and men that our still hiding in the SILENCE. Tom

Teach the Children to Never Hide in the Silence

#36465 - 04/12/05 07:21 AM Re: anniversary
LostinPA Offline

Registered: 04/04/05
Posts: 120
Loc: Lancaster, PA
I can't stop the tears? Help?


#36466 - 04/16/05 06:13 PM Re: anniversary
Splitting Offline

Registered: 12/26/04
Posts: 62
Thanks for the inspiration. I was silent for 40 years. Crashed to the surface after an affair. Started recovery 9 months ago. I either feel nothing or overwhelming sesne of filth.

I hope that I can send the same message 10 years from now.

#36467 - 04/16/05 09:22 PM Re: anniversary
ScottyTodd Offline
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Registered: 02/12/03
Posts: 1561
Loc: Pennsylvania
Ric - I hope those are cleansing tears!! Those tears take away the toxins dwelling in the tears of grief. Crying is a way the body expels that emotional energy. For example, a little boy falls off his bike and gets hurt. He wimpers a bit on the way home. When he sees his mom/dad, he grabs his knee and cries profusely. In safety, the boy lets out the "owwy energy".

Congratulations on the ANNIVERSARY guys!! It is really great to hear the recovery stories and people do get better!! What an inspiration!! I'm glad we share and celebrate the good news as well as share the pains and hurts. Keep looking ahead and following your goals!!


If you think you can or you can't - you're right!.......anon
It's never too late to have a happy childhood!.....anon
You're very normal for the abnormal situation you've been through..............S. Todd

#36468 - 04/16/05 09:43 PM Re: anniversary
Lloydy Offline
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Registered: 04/17/02
Posts: 7071
Loc: England Shropshire
Howard's right, they're 'cleansing tears'. Don't fight them, let them flow and take strength from the fact that what you are experiencing is emotion.

Our abusers killed our emotions. Take them back, they were yours all along.


Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you've imagined. As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler.
Henry David Thoreau


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