I love your "lectures"
I love the way you put your heart into your sharing. You did me a big favor tonight:
What if it were your brother that your sponsor was talking about
You made me realize that these imaginary (I hope and believe) boys my sponsor talks about
ARE MY BROTHER.
Knowing this, I understand what I need to do; not to change my friend but to do what is right for me. Thanks, my brother.
Danny if that kind of crap is normal adult conversation then it damned well shouldn't b
Thanks for reminding me that I get to have my own ideals of what it means to be a man--and that doesn't include sexual exploitation! You are so right--if that is "normal" --then I don't want anything to do with it. Your prayers are welcome.
And your words of assurance and gentle encouragement give me an idea of how I must proceed.
Danny he is using you and probably does not realize it.
As always, you hit the nail square on the head!
Thanks for passing on your message.
I didn't get sober to put up with this kind of crap. It's my responsibility to myself and to my friend to speak my mind. My fear of "hurting his feelings" is just double talk for continuing to enable him to continue his sickness. Might appear to be easier to just let it go--but in the long run it's like poison for me and for him.
I'll let you know how it goes.
You also made me realize that I do need a new sponsor and am avoiding making that change. This guy quit going to meetings years ago and is really pretty dry (vs. living in sobriety).
Maybe I'll just do it one day at a time, instead of trying to figure out all the possible consequences etc. etc. Living in the wreckage of the future......
I wish someone had talked him out of it.
God bless you, my brother. Your honest sincerity touches my heart. That you have found the courage to tell me about the terrible thing that happened to you in hopes of saving someone else, gives me the strength to do what I know is right.
Thanks for reminding me to be real....