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#362986 - 05/25/11 08:37 PM Never Trust The Flock
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Never Trust The Flock

Oh yes without a doubt they’ll swarm to your side
Flittering, fluttering a luring chorus they’ll sing on high

“We’re all one, joined by a common grief”
Yes, God yes! Come connect with us
We’re all one, joined by a common belief”

Ah but just once, stray from the collective thought
And feathers turn. It’s a shunning from the flock




Edited by earlybird (05/26/11 11:14 AM)
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#362987 - 05/25/11 08:40 PM Re: Never Trust The Flock [Re: earlybird]
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Strangely familiar.

-efm

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#362989 - 05/25/11 08:46 PM Re: Never Trust The Flock [Re: Ever-fixed Mark]
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Sadly common.

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#362999 - 05/26/11 12:52 AM Re: Never Trust The Flock [Re: earlybird]
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you are a wise man


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#363014 - 05/26/11 09:13 AM Re: Never Trust The Flock [Re: sidestep]
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That's why I'm the hot pink flamingo flying with the ducks!!!!

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#363046 - 05/26/11 06:39 PM Re: Never Trust The Flock [Re: earlybird]
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Hear Hear EB

Having the strength to push on, no matter who shuns us. That's grace covering our loneliness. Nice poem man"

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#363402 - 06/01/11 09:34 AM Re: Never Trust The Flock [Re: Tyler845]
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earlybird,
Yes, a sad but true conundrum we all face in life.

Peace and healing,
Josh

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#363407 - 06/01/11 10:16 AM Re: Never Trust The Flock [Re: midnight51]
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I've just recently had this done to me by a member of our "flock."

Rusty



Edited by Rusty563 (06/02/11 09:20 AM)
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#363466 - 06/02/11 12:44 PM Re: Never Trust The Flock [Re: Rusty563]
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A pink flamingo amongst the ducks Dang, I love that visual!!!

It saddens me that this poem struck a chord. It is one I wished more people would find disagreement with than agreement, especially at a place where the common ground of sexual assault should trump all other differences. But that is “pie in the sky” wishing in fact it is the destructive act of SA that most likely fuels much of the division.

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#363522 - 06/03/11 05:05 AM Re: Never Trust The Flock [Re: earlybird]
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It saddens me too brother frown

I think in many ways, we seek reasons to separate ourselves. In this way, we don't have to admit to ourselves, deep inside, just how alike we all are...

But, on the other hand, acceptance is absolutely needed for healing. If we can't find unconditional acceptance here, regardless of orientation or religion, then where can we hope to find any acceptance as survivors???

Division is what makes the battle easy for our enemies ...we still are not One Voice ....

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#363554 - 06/03/11 06:00 PM Re: Never Trust The Flock [Re: Darkheart]
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Darkside you said:

“But, on the other hand, acceptance is absolutely needed for healing.”

I immediately thought “Yippie, finally something I can disagree with you on ;-)

Then I decided I needed to look closer at your wisdom. I’m far guiltier than the next guy for looking for a reason to separate myself. It takes the slightest hesitation from someone and I make the assumption I’m being abandoned. Crap!!! How many times, when I felt shunned, it actually was only the other side slowing down to take a breath or needing to pull away for a bit to regroup? I’m beginning to grasp that rejection, to be an act of shunning, must carry with it a desire on the part of the shunner/shunners to be asserting power over another to force change or more accurately, to capitulation.

This form of rejection is not as common as I like to think. I’m willing to wager the pulling away I feel often times is a movement based on a mutually felt distrust. It’s not shunning to retract from someone or ones in order to protect one’s self. The fact that the need to protect may or may not be real is unimportant to this conversation I’m talking about the perceived need to self-protect which is understandable in hyper-alert status with sexually assaulted persons. Rejection feels awful when it happens but most likely to all persons involved for neither side feels morally superior over the other as they do when one shuns another.

Time to go check out nature and see if it can give me some answers. Earlybird

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#363569 - 06/04/11 12:14 AM Re: Never Trust The Flock [Re: earlybird]
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Yes brother ...you have healed sooo much, but those inner defense mechanisms are still there...

I'm proud of you for recognizing this about yourself, as well as recognizing the need of others to pull back for their preservation ...Great Work!!!

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