This is in response to an online chat, not here.
I am tired of hearing people say it was only once or it wasn't that bad.
Let me ask a few questions.
Did it hurt you? Physically, emotionally, mentally or sociologically?
Does it still bother you?
Does it re-visit you, in a negative manner?
If you can answer yes to any of these, it was bad.
This is not a competition, what happened, happened and we are all dealing with this crap.
We all hurt, trying to judge a persons grief about this stuff based upon the objective reality of the severity of what happened to them is not useful, the subjective reality is were the pain lies.
Stop minimizing what happened and give yourself a break.
I say you, but I need to include me.
"No price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself" - Nietzsche