Child Molesters: A Behavioral Analysis
this is an excellent document, and should be required reading.
thanks for the link, Still!
quoted from the document:
"Children who are seduced or actively
participate in their victimization, however, often feel guilty and blame themselves
because they did not do what they were “supposed” to do.
They did not recognize, resist, and report. When humans do something they know they were not supposed
to do, they tend not to tell others they did it and lie when asked about it. These
seduced and manipulated victims may also feel a need to sometimes describe their
victimization in more socially acceptable, but inaccurate ways that relieve them of
this shame and guilt.
"Acquaintance child molesters, although sometimes violent, tend by necessity to
control their victims primarily through the grooming or seduction process and by
exploiting the immaturity of their victims. They usually need long-term access to do
this. They have been labeled as “groomers” (van Dam, 2006). This process not only
gains the victim’s initial cooperation, but also decreases the likelihood of disclosure
and increases the likelihood of ongoing, repeated access. Acquaintance offenders
with a preference for younger victims (younger than 12) are more likely to also
have to spend time seducing the potential victim’s parents/guardians or caretakers
to gain their trust and confidence. An acquaintance molester who uses violence to
control victims is more likely to be quickly reported to law enforcement and easily
identified. An acquaintance molester who seduces his victims can sometimes go
unreported for years if not indefinitely.
"There is not one 'profile' that will determine if someone is a
child molester. But there are some child molesters who tend to engage in highly
predictable and recognizable behavior patterns. The potential evidence available
as a result of the long-term, persistent, and ritualized behavior patterns of many
preferential sex offenders makes the understanding and recognition of these patterns
important and useful to investigators and prosecutors in legally appropriate ways
regarding whether a perpetrator, predator, or pedophile can be physically profiled, i would have to say no.
the FBI document claims...
be identified by physical description and,
often, not even by “bad” character traits.
Without specialized training or experience
and an objective perspective, he cannot
easily be distinguished from others
although i do agree with canuck.
God gave us instincts to protect us out there in the wild, including from each other. It wouldn't hurt if people who *Suspect* that someone might be a molester or other violent criminal would be discretely more vigilant about that person.
one should never ignore a gut instinct, and should at least investigate a hunch.
safety first, and where the safety of children is concerned, it is best to err on the side of caution.
suspicion, alone, can do no harm, if handled delicately and discretely.
unsupported suspicions that lead to accusations and rumours can destroy decent people, quicker than black magic and evil spells.
the fallout from such a disaster will likely damage the very child one is attempting to protect.
that being said,
i can honestly confess that i instantly and instinctively did not trust any
of my abusers from the moment i met them.
something in the eyes, the tone of voice, the touch...
i'd get a creepy vibe, which i suppressed, dismissed or ignored, to my own peril.
the abuse never came as a total surprise.
it was expected, anticipated even.
but beneath that pervading sense of impending doom,
i harboured and nurtured a fragile hope that "this time" it would be different.
"this time" i was wrong.
"this time" i was worthy.
when it happened,
it was like i knew it was coming all along,
and the deed, once complete and confirmed, was better behind me than looming ahead.
that "just get it over with" feeling.
that blessed moment when the struggle between "dread vs. hope" gave way to the certainty of surrender and submission.
part of the reason i later carried a lot of blame, shame and guilt.
i started to think, i was too stupid or too weak to protect myself.
i may have even wanted it to happen.
crazy thoughts. self doubt. mental torture.
of course, being the intended child victim, the abuser would look at and talk to me differently than to another adult.
that might have been clue enough for me, but they would go to great lengths to conceal their hidden side from potential accusers.
i used to hold a lot of blame and resentment for the adults in my life that failed to protect me from what i thought were obvious threats, but i now believe that the grooming process might not have been as visible to them as it was to me.
public education and awareness is a good healthy start toward CSA prevention.
i will add this note:
the adults who got involved in my life,
and were truly trying to help me,
and were genuine good people,
(i.e. did not try to abuse me sexually)
did not show me enough affection to get my attention.
their professionally distant demeanour and "no fun" attitude made me think they were boring robots who had no idea what was really going on.
to my own discredit, i usually betrayed those people, forcing them to reject me, just to prove they didn't "really" care.
now that i look back...
considering how determined i was to perpetuate my self destruction,
it is a miracle i made it this far.
"Broken and sick, again I live. By death's taste, I know life's worth
~ Zahir~ad~Din (Babur the Tiger)