Ive been through that, had an ex who went through hell for me, n with me. I know personally, it was my feelings of inadequacy, marred with the insecurity, of a trigger. Its hard to face, but now that i have, im doing much better. So it can get better. Its a fear , that makes us run. Intimacy used to make me feel like I was being made fun of, because the memories scream at us when we're in that moment, sometimes. Sometimes, they were non existent, other times they were crippling. When i would tell her i couldnt give her what she wanted, it meant i couldnt be open with her, and be honest with her, about how scared i was, an feeling like i had to run, i felt like i could never get over it. But that is a lie, our fear tells us. We can get over it, n be happy again. We have to work very closely with ourselves, spot our fears n thoughts closely, as we're havin em, n confront them. Re think them, n point out their obvious inconsistency. Only he can make the call to whether he wants to be out, but if he's only expressing it when triggered, u can bet its not truly how he feels. Think thats the fear talking. Hope all works out. Youre helpin more than u know, im sure.
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